DD frustrated with team

[Blackie6]

Mariposamom,

My DD made the "transition" last February at age 6 (she started the week of her B-Day)from pre-team (4 hrs week) to L4 (10.5 hrs wk) and other than being tired she did really well. Things were done differently though. As I've mentioned in previous posts our L4 team just re-started and we feel like guinea pigs sometimes. But anyway when the girls first got to practice they buddied up w/older girls to warm-up and then later went w/coach to stations and some conditioning. It wasn't until a couple months later when the whole program was overhauled and we started TOPS training too and there was not much playing around, we had new coaches! Anyway, my daughter did fine because the transition really came gradually I think.

However, now our pre-team girls work out w/the L4 girls one night/week for 3 1/2 hrs w/our coaches. Then they go their regular 2 hr night w/pre-team coach and then added another 1 1/2 evening for just conditioning w/P Team coach for a total of 7 hrs. While it's nice that they seem to be transitioning them nicer than they did for my DD with added hours, learning more L4 skills, more opportunity w/L4 coaches. I am begining to think the cold turkey (new coaches, longer hrs) worked better for us because some of our pre-teamers are having a lot of the same concerns you have w/your DD. I think it's normal to feel the way she's feeling...things really are changing. The conditioning alone...many younger girls (my DD included) don't understand the sore muscles and stretches that come w/conditioning. My DD used to say her belly hurt, but it was from the excercises. We would give her a warm bath and an ice pop to cheer her up when she got home, to relax her and get her ready for bed. I thought the added hrs would make her more tired but it really just made her more hyped up until the end of the week when it all caught up w/her and she would be exhausted. With being on the team though she was excited because she was w/older girls now and learning skills quickly. She likes to learn new things and was getting bored w/pre-team.

I think you DD will be fine once she gets used to the hours, new coaches and what's expected of her now. She might be a little nervous not knowing what being on the team is all about and what a competition is like. Once she feels like she "belongs" she will be happier about being there. Maybe you could pick her up a little earlier until she gets used to the hours? And, a "cut" day might be what you all need to re-charge and re-think. My DD also has some other activities that we sqeeze in like girl scouts, teener ball, diving team in the summer...this way there is always other non-gym activities too. I wouldn't worry about it, she'll be fine in no time if this is what she really wants to do. If not, she'll tell you I'm sure.

[midwestgymmom]

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Originally Posted by flippymonkeysmom I think it is a pretty normal transition to team. A lot of new team girls have trouble adjusting to the demands expected of them and the increased hours etc. She will adjust though and be fine. In a 6 year olds world they very rarely can see the big picture and everything is based on what they are feeling at that exact moment. You can probably ask her about it again today when maybe she isn't as sore and she will have no idea what you are talking about - of course she wants to stay on team - she loves it. My dd has some flexibility issues and when her coaches stretches her I know it hurts. She is a freak though - she actually thanks her coach after because she says she knows she is doing it to help her be a better gymnast. I guess at 11 they 'get it'. Of course when she was 7 and went from an intermediate class where she went 3 hours a week to preteam where she went 9 hours - the first month she couldn't walk up the stairs by herself, lol. Try not to worry too much. Since she just moved up she needs time for the adjustment, especially switching coaches. At that age they can get very attached. Last thing to remember - 9 out of 10 times it is harder on us than them. They get over things and adjust much quicker than us old folk. Hang in there mom, once she's used to being on team she is going to do great

:goodpost: Thats what I was thinking but she said it so much better

[mariposamama]

Thanks again guys. She came home from practice tonight totally happy and telling me all about all the stuff they did. I am going to relax a bit and take it as she is just adjusting. I watch her practice sometimes and she is always seems to be happy and having fun.

I appreciate your input and opinions! We have Monday of next week off because of the holiday anyway and that will give her a whole week off from any kind of gymnastics (except all the stuff she does at home, LOL).

[gym law mom]

Even as they get older, moving up a level/adding hours to practice time can be a bit of a transition. I know my gymmie, while setting her goal of moving to L8, has said at times she's not sure about it because she'll miss her coach. Now, she knows the coach will be in the gym as she is if she would move up, but still...... As they get older, they start to really understand the need for more hours, stretching and other conditioning can hurt(but pays off in the long run) and you may have to move from a coach you really love to one you don't know as well.

I think for your little one, some of the iniitial excitement of being on"team" had worn off and she was being a typical 6 yo. It will come up again and she'll have new and different complaints. Thats why this sport is such a roller coaster. Glad she's back and having a good time.

[Panda-girl's Mom]

Keep things in perspective I think almost everyone on my daughters level 4 team has gone through this. Some have left and transfered to other gyms, alot of them have cryed before practice. My daughter is 8 now and she is becoming much more tolerant of the conditioning, she understands it is to make her stronger. Be prepared because when alot of the young girls started to compete at the meets the excitement of the meets wears off too and they get anxious and disappointed when the do not place. Also alot of the younger girls where very intimidated and scared of the judges in their blue suits. It is scary not knowing what to expect in your first year especailly when your daughter is so young. I also found it very helpful to talk to the coaches and the gym owner. When my daughter was upset I spoke with them and they reassured me that this is normal. It also lets them know that your daughter is upset about something and they can better help her get over it.

[mariposamama]

Thanks again guys. I think part of the issue is really mine. I have A LOT of anxiety over the whole team at her age thing. I would rather she didn't do it, but she seems to love it and has fun so I am trying really hard to just let her do it. I have read soo much and I think I overthink things sometimes. I am pretty sure if she wanted to quit, she would just tell me. We talk about everything and she has a pretty strong strong mind/personality and isn't afraid to make it known to me.

For now I am just going to stop talking/worrying about it and follow her lead. She has practice tomorrow and then doesn't have practice again until next Wednesday. We might even skip that and then start June fresh. She is supposed to add that 3rd day and they have reduced the L4 hours to 9 hours instead of 10.5 (which I am thrilled about!!). She says she wants to add the day, but I am not so sure yet. I haven't decided if I will let her add the extra day in June or wait till July.

[Gymmonkeymomma]

I'm just catching up now and reading all the responses. I can see how leaving her old coaches, being with different ones, maybe tougher ones, can unsettle a 6 yr old. And if your DD is not used to the conditioning, that's "pain" that she's not used to. Even my older DD (who started L4 at 7) still complains about it. We recently got a new coach who cracks the whip at stretching and older DD complains about THAT. My little one, however, is a freak She moved up to L4 at 5.5 and maybe because she knew the older girls and they all have the same coaches & same practice times, the only difference for her was adding the hours. She just goes with the flow.

As for adding a day, summer is the best time because they don't have to worry about school and she can transition to the new schedule before Sept. Good luck!

[mariposamama]

Thanks! She had practice again last night and was totally fine and talking all about what they were learning. I think it was just her being tired combined with the stress of all the transitions.

It just caught me off guard because she never wants to miss gym and has always loved it. When I told her that she wouldn't have gym again until next Wednesday because of the holiday she was mad, LOL.

We homeschool, so the hours won't matter much there, but they do compete a fall and spring season, so the first scheduled competition is the end of September. I am thinking she could use the extra hours if she wants to be ready for that first meet since she still needs to learn the floor routine, beam routine and she needs her front hip circle, mill circle and ROBHS without a spot.

[Gymnasticsgirl521]

I can so relate to your situation. I have seen DD crying while being streatched or sitting in splits. I guess you can say she has been streatched since she was 3 and doesn't need it hardly anymore now. The crying is just sitting in the split too long now. I have seen 75% of the preteam walk out to take a break with tears from splits. If you ask my baby if she wants to quit she will give a dirty look and tell you I don't like staying in them too long but look mommy they are FLAT. I noticed a change with many of the girls that moved up to preteam that they had a HUGE adjustment last year with the expectation. The girls that were from the Dev class really didn't have much trouble. I have a feeling anyone that comes from regular classes will have yet another adjustment time.

I am sure things will work out it just takes time.