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Old 09-26-2008, 04:44 PM
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Unhappy Making her take a break

Well - the wrist still isn't where it should be and she is just frustrated - it is not fun not being able to do anything. Lately half the times she has practice she just doesn't want to go. So today I told her I wanted her to take a month off not only to get better, but to figure out whether she really truly still wants this. She admits it is hard leaving at 8:00 in the morning for school, going straight to gym after, not getting home until after 9:00 and then coming home, showering and doing homework until 10:30 or 11:00. She freaked out when I told her I was making her take a break though. I went to the gym and spoke to her coaches - they understand but of course tried to talk me out of it. I am so confused - I really hope I am doing the right thing. As her mom I just feel I have to put her health and well being above a sport right now. It is just so hard since it has been such a huge part of her life (and mine) for so long.
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Old 09-26-2008, 04:48 PM
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Hey there, don't be sad! You're her mom, I'm sure you're doing what's best, 'cause you know best! Maybe use the extra time to go and do some mom & daughter stuff so it doesn't seem so bad! Mani/pedi anyone???

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Old 09-26-2008, 04:56 PM
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I totally get where you are coming from, dealing with injuries is such a stressful thing. When I had to take big DD out of gym for 5 weeks it was very tough. She had nothing else to fill her time with except hanging out with us at home. We would bike ride, take her swimming etc.

But it did clarify in her mind that she really did want to go back to gymnastics, we gave her the choice not to return to the gym, she really wanted it. The coaches were great with us and have kept her in the same group.

For me, I just knew I had to do something as nothing was healing whilst she kept trying to do stuff in the gym and then continually setting herself back.

Now looking back on it, it was the best thing I ever made her do. Her sis still did gym, which was tough all around. But to have the full knowledge that we gave her injuries thebest chance to heal was reassuring.

Of course in a way we are lucky, DD was able to return to gym, she did miss a lot of the cool summer training, but she seems to be doing fine. Who knows what would've happened if she hadn't got better in the 5 weeks.

You are being a wise Mom, it is your job to do this, nobdy else knows Fliipy like you do, you have to do what you think is best. Coaches do not always see the big picture. Maybe this will also give Flippy a chance to reassess what she wants from gym.

Here are some (((((((((hugs))))))))) for you both, you lot helped me through the tough times, we'll be here for you both.
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Old 09-26-2008, 05:16 PM
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Being a nurse & a mom I have to say I think you are making the right choice. You have considered DD's long term health and I commend you for that. Some parents at our gym are so caught up in thier DD's winning & moving up....they lose sight of what REALLY matters. You've made a hard choice...but it IS what is best for your DD. Don't 2nd guess yourself. Here's a hug of support
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Old 09-26-2008, 05:35 PM
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I think you are making the right choice as well. Afterall, moms know best and you are absolutely right to put her health and well being above ANY sport. I'm sure she is freaking out right now about the thought of not going to the gym and she is scared because it has been her life for so long. I think the time off is good for anyone going through an injury and it helps put things in perspective. She is still young and she still has many gymnastics years ahead of her.

I know it's hard because as mothers we want to make our kids happy and right now your dd is probably not the happiest because of her injury. It can be very frustrating. Let her know that this is only a break and she can do a lot of fun stuff that she normally woudn't have time for if she was at the gym all the time.

It'll be okay. Hugs to you both from me and Dani.





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Old 09-26-2008, 05:56 PM
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I think that you are making the decision based on your love and concern for your daughter and that usually can't steer you wrong. Injuries are so hard to have to deal with. I hope that the month off gets her wrist better and that it will also help her to decide whether she wants to go back or not. I agree. Do some fun mother/daughter things and enjoy that time together. Hugs to both of you. I am sure it was a hard decision for you to make. Sending lots of healing vibes to your DD.
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Aww...of course you are making the right choice! It sounds like she really does need a breather, physically and mentally. I am quite sure that the time off is going to be good for her. When she goes back, she'll be rested and ready to go, if that's what she wants. Hugs to you both!
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I feel for you! I know it is probably very hard for her, but you're her mother- you are doing the right thing. Hey, who knows? Maybe that 1 month break is all her wrist needs to get better

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Old 09-27-2008, 04:43 AM
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Now of course that it is pouring rain right now and I'm sitting in my pj's drinking coffee instead of getting ready to drive her to gym - maybe this won't be so bad

Seriously though, I am a firm believer in sometimes needing to step back from something to see the whole picture. I figure in a month she will either realize all she wants to do is gym and go back healthy with no doubts, or she will realize that life without gym is kinda nice. Thank you all so much for your support - it really does help so much
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