Somewhat clueless
Proud Parent
Hi, I just found this forum when doing a Google search on fears and coaches not spotting. I did find some threads addressing this, but they were somewhat old, and I'm not sure if they are the exact situation, so I wanted to give some background for my question.
I titled myself "somewhat clueless" because although dd10 has been competing since AAU Level 2 and just finished USAG Level 6, I have remained a supporter and encourager but tried not to be overly involved in order to make this "her sport." (I found some threads on this too! ) I have slowly learned terminology after she rolls her eyes at me for calling something a "flippy thing." (that was a souk vault!), etc. I have always been supportive of coaches, tried not to ask too many questions, and pretty much stayed hands-off.
DD is very competitive, does very well in school and is probably harder on herself than anyone else could be and I have heard this about her from early on. So, here's the issue. After learning the flyaway last summer to score out of the old USAG 6, and continuing to do it throughout the season, she apparently did something about a month ago that caused her to fly across the mat on her belly. This was right before the state meet and caused her a certain amount of stress. The coach pretty much gave her a deadline to get it or she would not be able to compete bars, but did not want to spot her at all. I did end up emailing HC about her frustration, and the coach agreed to encourage her and spot her so she made it through state. However, my fun kid who is always happy, doing handstands, etc. all of the time, seems to have lost her "spark." We decided to let her take off a week to just rest and relax since she is just 10 after all. Through all of this, before state and now, she has been so frustrated that she has not wanted to go to practice. The coach is still refusing to spot her and she now feels like she is just being put in a corner and ignored during bars. She told me that she feels "lost" in the air and feels unsafe. I have read a little about the vestibular thing on here and we have allergies during this time, so that makes sense.
Okay, so the question. How do I handle this with the coach? I don't want to tell the coach what to do, but this is obviously not working. Her self-esteem has been shot, and she feels like the coach doesn't want her or like her anymore. I'm sure the coach is trying this approach to get her to be confident in herself, but she was told there was no reason for a spot since this is a lower level skill and she has done it before. This is a hard-working kid who really WANTS to do it but has a feeling of being powerless and unwanted. She competed Level 6 with what are apparently some level 7 skills (handspring on beam, layout on floor) so she has worked hard to get to this point. I don't think she wants to quit, but it seems like she is feeling that she is bad, will never progress, and should just hang it up. Can you all give me some advice and perspective? She has expressed the desire to continue to level 10.
Thanks for reading and sorry so long!!!
I titled myself "somewhat clueless" because although dd10 has been competing since AAU Level 2 and just finished USAG Level 6, I have remained a supporter and encourager but tried not to be overly involved in order to make this "her sport." (I found some threads on this too! ) I have slowly learned terminology after she rolls her eyes at me for calling something a "flippy thing." (that was a souk vault!), etc. I have always been supportive of coaches, tried not to ask too many questions, and pretty much stayed hands-off.
DD is very competitive, does very well in school and is probably harder on herself than anyone else could be and I have heard this about her from early on. So, here's the issue. After learning the flyaway last summer to score out of the old USAG 6, and continuing to do it throughout the season, she apparently did something about a month ago that caused her to fly across the mat on her belly. This was right before the state meet and caused her a certain amount of stress. The coach pretty much gave her a deadline to get it or she would not be able to compete bars, but did not want to spot her at all. I did end up emailing HC about her frustration, and the coach agreed to encourage her and spot her so she made it through state. However, my fun kid who is always happy, doing handstands, etc. all of the time, seems to have lost her "spark." We decided to let her take off a week to just rest and relax since she is just 10 after all. Through all of this, before state and now, she has been so frustrated that she has not wanted to go to practice. The coach is still refusing to spot her and she now feels like she is just being put in a corner and ignored during bars. She told me that she feels "lost" in the air and feels unsafe. I have read a little about the vestibular thing on here and we have allergies during this time, so that makes sense.
Okay, so the question. How do I handle this with the coach? I don't want to tell the coach what to do, but this is obviously not working. Her self-esteem has been shot, and she feels like the coach doesn't want her or like her anymore. I'm sure the coach is trying this approach to get her to be confident in herself, but she was told there was no reason for a spot since this is a lower level skill and she has done it before. This is a hard-working kid who really WANTS to do it but has a feeling of being powerless and unwanted. She competed Level 6 with what are apparently some level 7 skills (handspring on beam, layout on floor) so she has worked hard to get to this point. I don't think she wants to quit, but it seems like she is feeling that she is bad, will never progress, and should just hang it up. Can you all give me some advice and perspective? She has expressed the desire to continue to level 10.
Thanks for reading and sorry so long!!!