No graceful transition to new gym...AARGH

[lakshmi369]

Your DD obviously made the right decision to leave that gym for more reasons than the one you originally cited! Be thankful she is out of there! If coaches in a program will so quickly dismiss a gymnast without showing them the courtesy of even a "See ya later" that is probably one of the most apalling things I have heard! Then, to misrepresent her decision to the rest of the team is fairly low and dishonest at best! Take your team fee's and run, dont walk to the new gym! Once the rest of your DDs ex-teammates know the truth perhaps they too will question if they are at the right gym! My families thoughts are with you....Best wishes for your Daughter opening a new chapter to her life!

[maddiekate]

I quit gym last month and am looking for a new gym. At the 'old' gym, we are required to give a 30-day notice before quitting, so i had time to say good bye. However the past 30 days, the coach was rude and either singled me out or completely ignored me. My last day, while i was in the bathroom, she told the team that i acted like a 5 year old, and didn't even have the courage to say it to my face. She wouldn't spot me or tell me how to improve or say 'good job'. She sent me to work in other parts of the gym from the team. I wanted to cry. It was like i was beng shunned. I loved gymnastics, but now i'm just glad it is over.

[gymnomore]

I had to respond to this one. I could have written the same post. My dd left her gym after 6 years also. She was one that the team depended on in all 4 events for many team victories and state titles. When she left, she wanted to come in and say goodbye, but the coach had to "get back with me". Finally, a few days later, he called and gave her permission to come by, which I find insulting. She never needed permission all the times she came for practices and gave them 100% She never needed permission to drop off that check every month! I want nothing more to do with those ungrateful people, and I'm glad we're gone.

[gymomme]

the stupidity of some adults will never cease to amaze me...i am surprised to hear more horror stories of the same kind as my DD...tonight is her first night at the new gym...she has been "coached" by me and hubby to say nothing bad about the old gym...not to make comparisons...and give her usual 110%...she was extremely hurt and angry and demanded we take her to have a say at the old gym and to say goodbye in person to her team and other staff members...we did not...told her to do so would only lower her to the very same standards she was angry about...now that she has calmed down...she has learned a valuable lifes lesson...it is always better to take the higher road...no matter what...will let you know how things go at the new gym

[Eveningdew]

Being both a coach and a mom, I cannot imagine not letting a gymnast say goodbye to her friends and coaching staff, provided it was a positive leaving. Regardless of the reasons why, she should have been allowed to say goodbye to her gym family.

Adults sometimes let their pride get in the way of what's best for everyone. I'm guessing they didn't want her to "dis" them in front of the girls. If the gymnast is of good report, she will simply say (tearfully) goodbye to her family.

It saddens me when adults treat children this way, we teach what we do...not always what we say. Actions speak louder than words ever will. Down the road they will reap what they have sown and may lose more gymnasts because of their cold reaction to a young, impressionable child.

Shame on them!

[kvgymnast]

omg that is so horrible!! i can totally imagine what your daughter feels like...i cannot imagine leaving my gymnastics friends right now without saying goodbye! i was kind of in a similar situation with one of my old gyms. i was unhappy with it but i loved the girls and i was pulled out of it and never got a chance to say goodbye. the good thing though is that i'm still in the area so i get to see them at meets and stuff which is fun.

[gymomme]

we were leaving due to schedule changes that we had conflicts with...had no intention but to thank her coaches for all they had done through the years...let them know we were sad to be going...had no intention to dis them or the gym then, now or ever...personally, i think they showed their true colors...