gymnastics or family life fun

[Mom to two gymnast]

We too, have scheduling issues. I have four very active children. Luckily my boys are in sports that aren't year-round, even though they play multiple seasons (baseball, football, soccer). My youngest daughter is in T-ball again this year. She wanted to play softball but my husband is the T-ball coach so it was gymnastics and T-ball or softball (games woul dhave been on gymnastics practice nights).

My girls go to gymnastics unless they are ill, injured or there is something important that comes up (vacation, big school function--for example space camp trip next weekend). Our view is that we spend so much money on gymnastics that we need to be committed to it as much as we can. My girls know that if they are going to do gymnastics, this is how it is. In 6 1/2 years I have never had them complain about it...to them there is no other option. Practice is a priority until they decide to not do it anymore.

Heck, I was in charge of a Girl Scout event last Friday and my DH picked up my oldest from practice and brought her out late to the event.

I don't know, maybe if our financial situation was different I would feel differently, for us this is a large financial commitment that we cut other expenses to pay for so our girls need to be 100% committed and they are.

I have seen "those moms" and while we are 100% committed, for us it is still all about having fun!! There are a few parents that look at me like I have two heads when the girls come out for a drink and I ask them if they are having fun. My 10 yo actually gets frustrated with teh girls who don't take it seriously during practice and screw around. She doesn't understand why those girls are even there if all they are doing is goofing off.

[mariposamama]

Quote:
Originally Posted by gimchick We are in school 8: 15 - 3:15 and we have gym approximately 20 + hours per week. Missing is highly discouraged unless illness prevails, vacations have to be taken on days that the gym is closed. After gym we are too tired to vacation anywhere, we just want to relax and end up just sitting around enjoying ourselves, which is great !!!. But, I sort of miss the nights that we sit down and eat dinner as a family and it is all so sad that my dd knows nothing else but gymnastics and I have to continue to be creative on my end--- keeping her in the loop that family is important. I just don't know.......... i thank everyone for ideas that they have posted and for sharing their situations SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I AM THE ONLY ONE, I am at a gym where the parents are jumping off of bridges for gymnastics, and I don't share the same feelings and I am gald to be here....

i am sure that many families feel the way you feel. though some also thrive in the situation. i can totally see how you would feel the way you do. just thinking about having that kind of daily schedule makes me stress and you are living it.

though as i have said, i come from a totally different mindset on things and that makes things hard for me sometimes as well. not only at the gym (and here), but in my own circles. i am on the other side of the fence in both situations. i know my daughter loves gym and that it is expensive, but to me, it isn't her job. there were days when i worked that i wanted to call in and play hookie and hang out with my family, but since it WAS my job, i couldn't. gymnastics is my DDs hobby and it is fun, it isn't her job. (i know my views won't be popular here, but i am used to that.)

one thing i often tell myself when facing other problems is to repeat to myself, "this too shall pass" and "one day, this will all be just a mix of wonderful and sometimes not so wonderful memories"

i still think that you guys need to find some time, even if small, to make special, simple family moments. i hope you can figure out some ways to do that.

[blondegymnastxo]

I am not a parent im just the 13yr. old gymnast so i really dont know what thats like. I no it takes a lot of time out of your day cause you probably have other things that u really need to get done. So it's probably hard on you as parents, but u also have to remember that it takes a huge toll on the gymnasts life also. Being in school for 8 hrs. then going to gym and training for 4hrs. then coming home a doing like 2 hours of H.W then finally getting to bed at like midnight- then waking up at 6:00 to finish H.W. After that you get to spend another day doing it all again. (it never changes) O yeah and lets not forget trying to keep up with grades and studying for exams. Also, on top of all that extra school activities and project after project after project that our teachers keep giving us. I have always said that i would love to make my class live my life for a week and see what i do every day. And if i have to miss out on hanging with my friends i just think heyy you're not missing out on anything cause you will be with your second family (your friends from gym) doing the thing all of you love todo... GYMNASTICS!!! So yeah sure i feel bad for the parents and the cost of everything that you have to pay for but ..... it's going to pay off in the long run.

[blondegymnastxo]

I am not a parent im just the 13yr. old gymnast so i really dont know what thats like. I no it takes a lot of time out of your day cause you probably have other things that u really need to get done. So it's probably hard on you as parents, but u also have to remember that it takes a huge toll on the gymnasts life also. Being in school for 8 hrs. then going to gym and training for 4hrs. then coming home a doing like 2 hours of H.W then finally getting to bed at like midnight- then waking up at 6:00 to finish H.W. After that you get to spend another day doing it all again. (it never changes) O yeah and lets not forget trying to keep up with grades and studying for exams. Also, on top of all that extra school activities and project after project after project that our teachers keep giving us. I have always said that i would love to make my class live my life for a week and see what i do every day. And if i have to miss out on hanging with my friends i just think heyy you're not missing out on anything cause you will be with your second family (your friends from gym) doing the thing all of you love todo... GYMNASTICS!!! So yeah sure i feel bad for the parents and the cost of everything that you have to pay for but ..... it's going to pay off in the long run.

[cccam]

i applaud any mother willing to sacrifice things for their daughters gymnastics. as a daughter whose mother won't sacrifice anything for my dreams, i just want to say how much what you do is so important.

my mother would not let me join team. she didn't want to drive me, she didn't want the hassle and because she made that decision, i have had a hard time forgiving her, since it has been my dream since i was around 7 years old.

it made me feel like i wasn't important enough to be given the time of day about something i had wanted my entire life.

i just want some of those moms out there to know that what they do is so important and so amazing. i thank you all for actually believing in your kids even though they might not make it to the olympics. that's not what gymnastics is about. i just wish my family had realized that before it was to late.

[NYgymfan]

Parents can be tough to deal with sometimes. I've had my share of disagreements with mine, but one thing my mom and dad always say to me is "we are only doing this (or not letting you do this) because we think it's what is best for you and for the family." So even though sometimes it might seem like what they are doing is mean, usually they do it because they think they are doing the right thing.

So to cccam...I can understand being upset about not being able to be on the team. I'm sure I would be if I was in your shoes. But I doubt they did that just to be mean. Have you tried talking to them about it? Cuz sometimes I've been able to get my parents to change their mind once they realize how important it is to me and that I'm willing to do my part to help them make it work.

[vmom]

This is an expensive, all consuming sport. I had no idea how much so until my daughter started competing. But, all the money, the driving, giving up a "real life" (for the both of us) is so worth it when I see her face after she's finally mastered a difficult skill, or stuck her routines, or the first time she ever took first place. She loves this sport and as long as she does I will do anything I can to keep her in it!

[gimchick]

Quote:
Originally Posted by cccam i applaud any mother willing to sacrifice things for their daughters gymnastics. as a daughter whose mother won't sacrifice anything for my dreams, i just want to say how much what you do is so important. my mother would not let me join team. she didn't want to drive me, she didn't want the hassle and because she made that decision, i have had a hard time forgiving her, since it has been my dream since i was around 7 years old. it made me feel like i wasn't important enough to be given the time of day about something i had wanted my entire life. i just want some of those moms out there to know that what they do is so important and so amazing. i thank you all for actually believing in your kids even though they might not make it to the olympics. that's not what gymnastics is about. i just wish my family had realized that before it was to late.

Thanks for your message, It helps with my stress level

[Sterlingdad]

We've just been through that decision and it was difficult. It we wanted our gymnast to progress, we had to drive over an hour each way, 4 to 5 times a week. We've got 5 children and limited resources. Being away was taking its toll on my other children. Regardless of the rationale we use, giving one child that much time absolutely means other children are also making a sacrifice. We were missing family meals, vacations, sports that the other children wanted to play, and time to just relax and play with friends. So we decided to cut the elite gymnastics. She'll still go locally a couple times a week for a couple hours, maybe do AAU, but it will be for fun. She's sad. And upset. But I am home 6 nights a week to read to my other children now, too. And my son can play baseball and soccer. My other daughter can be in the play. They're all 10 and under, so more issues may arise in the future, but for right now we can be a family and let each pursue part of their dream. It was hard because I want the best and want to let my children try to be their best -- but we had to find a balance and establish parameters now, or things would be hopelessly complicated later.

We cannot know the effects of our decision. Hopefully we can look back and feel it was best for all the members of the family. I cannot presume to suggest to anyone else what to do, but the thread merely asked if others were feeling the same way. We did and it was miserable.

[gymgymgymnast08]

I don't even practice as much as some of you guys do but yes I definitely have to give up some things to go to gym. Like if my friend's having a sleepover from Friday to Saturday? I usually wouldn't sleepover because I have gym on saturday morning. I don't really do stuff on friday nights because I go to open gym. Yes thats my choice but I want to get better and all so I do go. My school friends always yell at me because I am always ditching them for gymnastics. And like i'm on the track team for my school but I don't practice track because I have gym during that time so I just go to the meets and hope for the best. lol. In high school next year my schedule is gonna be crazy. haha so wake up go to school cross country practice go right to gymnastics get home eat dinner do all my homework shower go to bed same thing the next day. haha well i don't have gym on wendesdays so thats like my day off. but all in all we all realize that anything we have to do for gym is WORTH IT!