Hi All - recovering CGM here. I've been doing pretty good this year just getting my kid to practice, being a shoulder to cry on during hard days and a cheerleader during good ones, but State is coming up in a few days and it's been stressful :-/.
Today my daughter let me know that she will probably not be trained by the head coach next year. When we started at the gym last year, he was training levels 4-9. This year, when she moved up from a 3 to become a 5, her lower level coach moved with her. And our level 5s have done remarkably well. Despite being a small team in a small town our gymnasts, including my daughter, regularly place first in their age groups and our tiny team of 4 level 5s have taken first or second in the team competition at every meet they've been to.
The coach is great, I love her, she's obviously doing a fabulous job. But, it's her first year coaching past level 3. I've been secretly worried that she hasn't been uptraining the girls like the head coach would if he was working with them. (I get it, really, I know this is my CGM speaking). AND, whenever he took a few minutes to work with DD, she almost always picked something up that she couldn't with her regular coach. Not to mention the coach right now is still coaching 2-3 as well as levels 4&5 AND was the head Xcel coach. Xcel trains Tuesdays and Thursdays, which meant her JO kids could only train MWF. Not a big deal when training hours are 10.5 per week, but pretty impossible for upper levels that get between 17-25 hours per week.
The thing I've kept in my head is that next year, when my gymmie finally hit optionals, she would finally start training with the HC. She'd get the 17 hours a week of practice his girls did and she'd have the chance to really learn from a coach who has taken girls pretty far in upper level optionals. But, it sounds like he's going to stick with the girls he's already training, and DD's coach is going to add level 6 to her work load. When my daughter told me, my CGM broke through my tenuous grasp.
I have to admit that I got pretty upset, and I let her see it. The poor kid was almost in tears when she realized I wasn't as excited as she was. I had to stop, take a breath, apologize to her and let her know that I thought she was an amazing kid and gymnast no matter who was coaching her. I also made sure to let her know that I was just excited for her to work with the HC but I loved her current coach and I knew she'd do a great job coaching level 6 next year.
Inside, I'm still kind of bummed out - but I guess it's good practice for me to reign in the over-controlling, overly involved parts of my personality and just remember that this is not my sport and it's not my life. As long as the coach is safe and my daughter is happy then I should be happy too... It's going to take some work though!
Today my daughter let me know that she will probably not be trained by the head coach next year. When we started at the gym last year, he was training levels 4-9. This year, when she moved up from a 3 to become a 5, her lower level coach moved with her. And our level 5s have done remarkably well. Despite being a small team in a small town our gymnasts, including my daughter, regularly place first in their age groups and our tiny team of 4 level 5s have taken first or second in the team competition at every meet they've been to.
The coach is great, I love her, she's obviously doing a fabulous job. But, it's her first year coaching past level 3. I've been secretly worried that she hasn't been uptraining the girls like the head coach would if he was working with them. (I get it, really, I know this is my CGM speaking). AND, whenever he took a few minutes to work with DD, she almost always picked something up that she couldn't with her regular coach. Not to mention the coach right now is still coaching 2-3 as well as levels 4&5 AND was the head Xcel coach. Xcel trains Tuesdays and Thursdays, which meant her JO kids could only train MWF. Not a big deal when training hours are 10.5 per week, but pretty impossible for upper levels that get between 17-25 hours per week.
The thing I've kept in my head is that next year, when my gymmie finally hit optionals, she would finally start training with the HC. She'd get the 17 hours a week of practice his girls did and she'd have the chance to really learn from a coach who has taken girls pretty far in upper level optionals. But, it sounds like he's going to stick with the girls he's already training, and DD's coach is going to add level 6 to her work load. When my daughter told me, my CGM broke through my tenuous grasp.
I have to admit that I got pretty upset, and I let her see it. The poor kid was almost in tears when she realized I wasn't as excited as she was. I had to stop, take a breath, apologize to her and let her know that I thought she was an amazing kid and gymnast no matter who was coaching her. I also made sure to let her know that I was just excited for her to work with the HC but I loved her current coach and I knew she'd do a great job coaching level 6 next year.
Inside, I'm still kind of bummed out - but I guess it's good practice for me to reign in the over-controlling, overly involved parts of my personality and just remember that this is not my sport and it's not my life. As long as the coach is safe and my daughter is happy then I should be happy too... It's going to take some work though!