Hello again everyone!
DD is 7 and made the "new" level 3 team. She is a powerful little kid, freakishly strong and has picked up things quickly (she just started gymnastics this time last year) so far so good.....and she has zero confidence in herself and it's beginning to wear on me.
I know gymnastics is supposed to help with this - but as we all know they train and train so hard for so long - it's such a delayed gratification sport. Because she is not the "big fish in the little pond" of the rec classes...but the small fish in the big pond of L3 girls (she is one of the youngest...most being 9-11) we're on a daily rollercoaster of nerves and emotions. She has recently been telling me each time I tell her "time to get ready for gymnastics" she pouts, tells me she doesn't want to go, it's too hard and she wants to keep playing with her friends. I just shrug my shoulders and say "ok" then drop it for 5 min (and yes, I drop it) then she always finds me and says "but can I go next time?" and I say "honey, if you don't want to do it, then lets just not do it" ..... then she immediately changes her tune, smiles and gets ready & begs to go. When I pick her up she is smiling but talks about how hard it is - then when she gets home and does her "stuff" on the lawn for all neighbors to see, they ooooh and ahhhhh then we're back on the "i love gymnastics! this is awesome! and it's rah rah for the next few days.
She even asked to try the L2 team and she went for one practice. When I went to pick her up all I heard about was how boring it was and she's definately staying with L3.
She is terrified of the beam, of falling off the beam, screwing up her routine, not knowing her routine in time and nothing I can say about she having 6 more weeks to practice, this is normal nerves, just relax and do your best.....I don't know if I should be caving into her fears or give her the "you need to follow through on what you start" speech.
I should add she doesn't handle failure well. Some preservere and some sink....she immediately gets embarassed by falling from the beam and shuts down and begins to tear up and tells the coach that she's bad and will never learn it.
I didn't realize that I would morph into a on-call psychotherapist but she has me going in circles and I'm really trying to figure out what it is that's the root of the problem since she's not verbalizing it. I've talked to her coach and all the coach tells me is how wonderful she's doing and how easy she is to teach. When she casts out the "maybe I should quit" line, I just say "well, ok...if you don't want to do this, I'm not going to force you...I just want you to enjoy gymnastics" (and I mean it...I can take it or leave it) as soon as she hears that she's assuring me "no! no! i love it! I don't want to stop!"
I feel like she's yanking me around.....help?
thoughts anyone?
DD is 7 and made the "new" level 3 team. She is a powerful little kid, freakishly strong and has picked up things quickly (she just started gymnastics this time last year) so far so good.....and she has zero confidence in herself and it's beginning to wear on me.
I know gymnastics is supposed to help with this - but as we all know they train and train so hard for so long - it's such a delayed gratification sport. Because she is not the "big fish in the little pond" of the rec classes...but the small fish in the big pond of L3 girls (she is one of the youngest...most being 9-11) we're on a daily rollercoaster of nerves and emotions. She has recently been telling me each time I tell her "time to get ready for gymnastics" she pouts, tells me she doesn't want to go, it's too hard and she wants to keep playing with her friends. I just shrug my shoulders and say "ok" then drop it for 5 min (and yes, I drop it) then she always finds me and says "but can I go next time?" and I say "honey, if you don't want to do it, then lets just not do it" ..... then she immediately changes her tune, smiles and gets ready & begs to go. When I pick her up she is smiling but talks about how hard it is - then when she gets home and does her "stuff" on the lawn for all neighbors to see, they ooooh and ahhhhh then we're back on the "i love gymnastics! this is awesome! and it's rah rah for the next few days.
She even asked to try the L2 team and she went for one practice. When I went to pick her up all I heard about was how boring it was and she's definately staying with L3.
She is terrified of the beam, of falling off the beam, screwing up her routine, not knowing her routine in time and nothing I can say about she having 6 more weeks to practice, this is normal nerves, just relax and do your best.....I don't know if I should be caving into her fears or give her the "you need to follow through on what you start" speech.
I should add she doesn't handle failure well. Some preservere and some sink....she immediately gets embarassed by falling from the beam and shuts down and begins to tear up and tells the coach that she's bad and will never learn it.
I didn't realize that I would morph into a on-call psychotherapist but she has me going in circles and I'm really trying to figure out what it is that's the root of the problem since she's not verbalizing it. I've talked to her coach and all the coach tells me is how wonderful she's doing and how easy she is to teach. When she casts out the "maybe I should quit" line, I just say "well, ok...if you don't want to do this, I'm not going to force you...I just want you to enjoy gymnastics" (and I mean it...I can take it or leave it) as soon as she hears that she's assuring me "no! no! i love it! I don't want to stop!"
I feel like she's yanking me around.....help?
thoughts anyone?