my4buffaloes
Proud Parent
OK, first thanks to everyone who responded about helping her not be nervous.
Second, I am frustrated with dd's reaction to her meet. I need some tips please! Sorry it got long!
She started the meet with the best vault of her life and got a 9.1. Yet, I kind of had a feeling it wasn't going to be good enough. Second up was bars - her favorite and best event. She got a 9.175. This is average for her, but she has scored higher. Again, I figured it wasn't going to be enough, even though at fall states a lower score earned her second place.
Next came beam and it was beautiful - except for her falling on her leap. Ugh! 8.5. I noticed her crying really hard after this rotation and momentarily wished she had a cell phone so I could call her and tell her to shake it off. Then figured that she has to figure this out on her own, but wished her coaches would tell her to knock it off. She could hardly pull herself together to warm up floor.
Floor - looked great - scored 9.175. Higher than fall states where she won 1st, but I again figured it wasn't going to be high enough. Seeing some of the other scores, I could tell hers were probably too low.
We went into the awards with her feeling pretty chipper. I didn't say to her, but told my dh that I figured she wouldn't place on anything. I was right. I have no idea how far from the podium she was, but based on the winning scores on each event (9.6 + usually) I am guessing pretty far.
When it was over another mom told me she was crying. I went to investigate and she wasn't just crying - she was sobbing hysterically! How embarrassing! I tried to be cheerful in front of everyone, but when I could I whispered to her to knock it off and stop crying. She could hardly control herself.
After thinking about it for awhile, I think this is the first time she hasn't placed on a single event. Now frequently that is because they place all the way out, but still, she has never not placed before. I get why she is disappointed, but sheesh! Another girl came up to her, put her hands on her shoulders, gave her a little shake and said "welcome to my world!" I had to laugh.
I hope this makes her more understanding of others at meets. You can't win (or even place) all the time. After we got home I had a long talk with her about how she acted, I do not think it is OK to cry in the middle of a meet or to cry like that afterwards. She just said that she felt like she did all that work for nothing and was really disappointed in herself. How can I help her deal with her disappointment?
Second, I am frustrated with dd's reaction to her meet. I need some tips please! Sorry it got long!
She started the meet with the best vault of her life and got a 9.1. Yet, I kind of had a feeling it wasn't going to be good enough. Second up was bars - her favorite and best event. She got a 9.175. This is average for her, but she has scored higher. Again, I figured it wasn't going to be enough, even though at fall states a lower score earned her second place.
Next came beam and it was beautiful - except for her falling on her leap. Ugh! 8.5. I noticed her crying really hard after this rotation and momentarily wished she had a cell phone so I could call her and tell her to shake it off. Then figured that she has to figure this out on her own, but wished her coaches would tell her to knock it off. She could hardly pull herself together to warm up floor.
Floor - looked great - scored 9.175. Higher than fall states where she won 1st, but I again figured it wasn't going to be high enough. Seeing some of the other scores, I could tell hers were probably too low.
We went into the awards with her feeling pretty chipper. I didn't say to her, but told my dh that I figured she wouldn't place on anything. I was right. I have no idea how far from the podium she was, but based on the winning scores on each event (9.6 + usually) I am guessing pretty far.
When it was over another mom told me she was crying. I went to investigate and she wasn't just crying - she was sobbing hysterically! How embarrassing! I tried to be cheerful in front of everyone, but when I could I whispered to her to knock it off and stop crying. She could hardly control herself.
After thinking about it for awhile, I think this is the first time she hasn't placed on a single event. Now frequently that is because they place all the way out, but still, she has never not placed before. I get why she is disappointed, but sheesh! Another girl came up to her, put her hands on her shoulders, gave her a little shake and said "welcome to my world!" I had to laugh.
I hope this makes her more understanding of others at meets. You can't win (or even place) all the time. After we got home I had a long talk with her about how she acted, I do not think it is OK to cry in the middle of a meet or to cry like that afterwards. She just said that she felt like she did all that work for nothing and was really disappointed in herself. How can I help her deal with her disappointment?