Our girls team program is in a major transition period having had a 100% turnover in the coaching staff and a major exodus of gymnasts. My dd has not been happy and has been asking to look at other gyms. Currently, there's a circling of the wagons and a bit of paranoia going around our gym. I know for a fact that even calling another gym has gotten back to the owner and coaches. I'd like to be able to gather some information without having it get back to the coaches. I think it's completely appropriate, if we do decide to pursue another gym, that the new coaches contact the current gym. I don't think they need to know we're asking though before we even get to the point of going to try out another gym. For all I know, the initial discussion might result in us finding out that the team program is full, or that the schedule doesn't work for us, or that it's just not a right fit for another reason and we don't want to pursue it any further. So my question is this: if I call for the team director in question and don't give my name, would that be appropriate? If you received a call from a parent who wished to remain anonymous, at least initially, would you think that was weird?