This is a question for coaches and parents. As you may know this is a real issue for me because of recent events. I was kicked out of a gym but not really sure why. I think it was because I asked questions, but am not totally sure. Anyway after the issues my oldest dd had with the coaching staff at her first gym (a coach that was sarcastic and demeaning) and being demoted from team back to level 1 at the second gym (even though she did move back to level 3 in 4 months and made great progress all around, she was told she would never make the team at that gym because of her size.)(One of my questions and probably the one that got us kicked out). Anyway she seems a little gun shy about showing off her skills, and is only doing the skills she is asked to do and not all she is capeable of. The gym seems open to the girls doing the skills they have. The training is very individualized in the group she is in but she says she is to scared to say she can do a cetian skill and won't just do it because she thinks she would get in trouble.(I don't think she would because they are still getting to know her.) I am not sure how to proceed. I really feel this is a place that would boost her confidence as well as let her do more skills if they knew she had the ones they are working on. I want the coach to be the one who know more about her strengths and weekness than I do, instead of the other way around. I love to watch her and support her completely, but have been the only one to believe in her for so long I need the person coaching her to be a fan of hers and to know what they can expect her to do. We have never had a coach who really believed in her. I think this one has the potential, she seems to care about each kid as an individual. I was thinking of asking for a private for the coach to just test her skills, what do you think? Any other suggestions?