gymmomtotwo
Proud Parent
DD is an 11 year old level 8. Her group is closeknit and does alot together socially. They range in age 11-14. The group had alot of shifting in the fall of girls that weren't going to make 8. Some are doing High School, some went to Xcel, one moved gyms. DD misses them alot. The group gets along well, but there is one girl that is being quite mean on the group chat, making rude remarks etc about girls who have left the gym, etc. She has used the word hate. She has individually texted disparaging remarks about current teammates to DD, which are views not shared by DD. DD ignores the texts. I feel she should stand up for her teammates, but she is fearful of reprisal, it has happened to her before, and she does not want to be a target. Is 11 too old for me to intervene? I am inclined to tell the coach, but maybe I should let it lie since she is not directly bulying, but taking behind people's back. Meanness just drives me crazy..... I have evidence(it is all there in back and white) and I am wondering about approaching the Mom. She is a nice lady, but I just do not know how she would react. Any opinions? I am still in the stand up for your friend camp, but goodness I remember how hard it is to be 11. I monitor the group chat and all of DD'S texts. It is the price of admission as far as I am concerned. Any meanness is created by one girl.