Hi, I am new here and I am SO glad I found this site.
I have 7 year old twin daughters who adore gymnastics.
My problem is one daughter (I will call her A) was asked about a year ago to be on the team at her gym.
the other daughter (I will call her L) has not been asked yet. She wants to be on the team VERY badly and has been working her booty off to try and make it.
She takes 2 (and maybe upping it to 3) rec classes a week.
The team coaches who are WONDERFUL and I totally respect say she just needs to get stronger--many of the skills are there--she just needs more strength (I am assuming especially for bars--although she can do the basic skills for the Level 2 bar routine--but maybe not clean enough)
When A got asked to be on the team, we literally considered not letting her do it just because I was so afraid of how it would affect her sister's self-esteem. But ultimately we knew that just wasn't fair to do and let A go ahead with it. L has handled it AMAZING--she has gone to every meet to cheer her sister on and never feels sorry for herself. But I KNOW she truly believes that next year she will be out there competing. But I am SOOOOO worried that may not be the case.
I have talked a lot with the coaches--they totally know the position I am in and how badly L wants this.
I know they want it for her too--but they also have to look out for the best interest of the whole team and their gym--I totally get that and respect it.
They also can't make me any promises--they have said that if she gets stronger she can make it on--but they can't give me anything concrete.
But oh my goodness--I just want to help my girl achieve her goals. ;-)
both my girls are very tall for their age. I know this isn't helping much in this sport--being tall can be a detriment. and while A is very thin and light, L is bigger boned and heavy---not fat just solid.
I am desperately trying to figure out what to do.....
Do I continue encouraging my poor kid to work her butt off for something she may never achieve??
I absolutely LOVE our gym---it is AWESOME!!! I love the coaches and all the staff--I love the other families that go there. I would be SOOO sad to leave but should I look into other gyms?
but maybe a different gym may be a better fit for us.....
We don't have aspirations to go to the Olympics or anything even close---just want to have fun competing in a sport they love and work to get as good as they can at it.
but have I mentioned how much I LOVE LOVE LOVE our gym. :-(
or should I really try hard to get L interested in other activities? (we have tried swimming, cheerleading and basketball--all don't even compare to how much she loves gymnastics)
poor thing---the heart of a gymnast in a basketball players body.... ;-)
Any advice and comments are welcome.
I feel so stressed just wanting to make the right decisions for my girls.
Thank you so much!
I have 7 year old twin daughters who adore gymnastics.
My problem is one daughter (I will call her A) was asked about a year ago to be on the team at her gym.
the other daughter (I will call her L) has not been asked yet. She wants to be on the team VERY badly and has been working her booty off to try and make it.
She takes 2 (and maybe upping it to 3) rec classes a week.
The team coaches who are WONDERFUL and I totally respect say she just needs to get stronger--many of the skills are there--she just needs more strength (I am assuming especially for bars--although she can do the basic skills for the Level 2 bar routine--but maybe not clean enough)
When A got asked to be on the team, we literally considered not letting her do it just because I was so afraid of how it would affect her sister's self-esteem. But ultimately we knew that just wasn't fair to do and let A go ahead with it. L has handled it AMAZING--she has gone to every meet to cheer her sister on and never feels sorry for herself. But I KNOW she truly believes that next year she will be out there competing. But I am SOOOOO worried that may not be the case.
I have talked a lot with the coaches--they totally know the position I am in and how badly L wants this.
I know they want it for her too--but they also have to look out for the best interest of the whole team and their gym--I totally get that and respect it.
They also can't make me any promises--they have said that if she gets stronger she can make it on--but they can't give me anything concrete.
But oh my goodness--I just want to help my girl achieve her goals. ;-)
both my girls are very tall for their age. I know this isn't helping much in this sport--being tall can be a detriment. and while A is very thin and light, L is bigger boned and heavy---not fat just solid.
I am desperately trying to figure out what to do.....
Do I continue encouraging my poor kid to work her butt off for something she may never achieve??
I absolutely LOVE our gym---it is AWESOME!!! I love the coaches and all the staff--I love the other families that go there. I would be SOOO sad to leave but should I look into other gyms?
but maybe a different gym may be a better fit for us.....
We don't have aspirations to go to the Olympics or anything even close---just want to have fun competing in a sport they love and work to get as good as they can at it.
but have I mentioned how much I LOVE LOVE LOVE our gym. :-(
or should I really try hard to get L interested in other activities? (we have tried swimming, cheerleading and basketball--all don't even compare to how much she loves gymnastics)
poor thing---the heart of a gymnast in a basketball players body.... ;-)
Any advice and comments are welcome.
I feel so stressed just wanting to make the right decisions for my girls.
Thank you so much!