- Feb 13, 2015
Not all gifted students apply to Ivies! Gifted students and regular students alike do and have competed for the same schools and the same jobs. Again, flawed argument!First, do they all? I’m sure not all kids take SAT and ACT, just the college bound ones do. My child goes to school with kids who are “gifted“ and kids who have issues, and kids who have plans other then college. Not all will take the SAT or ACT
Next they are not competing directly to win a specfic, direct competition.
A lower scoring kid is not applying to Ivy League schools, That lower scoring kid is applying to schools that accept scores In the range he/she tested in...
My SATs a million years ago were not Harvard.SAT scores. I graduated from a very fine college with a solid educatio, passed the boards in my chosen field.
And those gifted kids going to Harvard weren’t applying to the schools I did. Yes we took the same standardized test. We did not compete directly with each other.
I honestly think you just need to let their comments roll off you. In the big scheme of things, you have someone complaining that your kid is too good. Who cares? Are the comments annoying? Sure, but it's nothing to get bent out of shape over. There are always going to be people complaining about something. They complain about girls getting high scores, judges they perceive as unfair, gyms repeating girls they think should move up, etc. You can choose to focus on their negative energy or ignore it and focus on your daughter.And I’m trying to watch what I say because sometimes it comes off a little crazy and I really don’t want all the gym parents mad at me. But instead of saying someone should be moved up because of their high scores, ever think maybe the other kids shouldn’t have moved up to that level or repeated instead of faulting the kid with the higher scores. It’s girls at my daughter gym that does like 16-20 hours, levels 8-10 and they still get high 37s-38s so that’s why I say everything is fair.
A million times thisHonestly, the sport will always seem " unfair" for individuals focused on equity. My daughter trains 12 hours a week and competes in the same age group as girls training 16+ AND repeating. I could spend my time focusing on the perceived unfairness or I can focus on her and whether or not she is happy and in the best place for her.
I'm in the camp that you probably should not say anything, but if another parent is pushing you for an answer, the best thing to say is probably something like "She is almost ready to move up, she is still working on ALL the JO9 skills, when she has them ALL and the coaches approve she'll move up".My daughters first level 8 meet (last week) she scored a 38.225. So she should move up because of that even without all the level 9 skills?
If someone says something that bothers you, you have a few choices. You can get irritated and complain. You can let it go, ignore it, and move on, focusing on your own life. You can use it as an opportunity to learn more about others or the situation. You can use it as an opportunity to practice compassion. So can they. But you can't control them, you can only control you. When someone does something that you believe is bad or wrong or "unfair", that's on them - it's about them. It becomes about you when you let it become about you by taking it, owning it, and reacting by passing it on.
.... practice and demonstrate compassion, patience, and maturity.