Had a whole long post and the CB ate it! Ack! It was probably too long or something, lol.
Anyway, I am extremely ticked at DD's gym, and could use some BTDT advice. Since my fingers are good and sore from my first attempt, I will try to summarize my issues in point format!
1. Have had communication issues at DD's gym from day 1, though not nearly this bad. DD has been in the team "system" for about 15 months now. Team is pretty competitive but not really an elite gym or anything. Our compulsories did pretty well at State last year, and our gym sent 5 of 8 Level 10's to National this year (I think that's good? I really have no clue).
2. DD is 7 and is currently on L3 preteam.
3. DD has had trouble with coach on and off (remember "loud coach" thread? that's us!). DD decided to "suck it up and stay" because she "loves her teammates" and she "wants to be a team girl" and "a new coach could be meaner, too". I agreed to it, for now, but told her I'd monitor the situation.
4. DD asked to do full day rec camp at our gym. I agreed (fun = good!) to let her. It is this week.
5. Pulled DD from rec camp after the morning session yesterday (just before lunch) due to pre-established playdate. Those are fun, too and darn it, it's summertime.
6. Drop DD off at camp this morning for a day of good times with new friends. Ask what the procedure was for her regular L3 class, as they conflicted at the end of the day. Was told that on Monday, only 1 L3 non-camper showed for class, so she joined the camp girls until the end of the camp day, then they worked with team coach for the remainder of the practice.
7. This should have registered as being "wrong" as I know neither L3 group practices on Mondays. But I don't think this til later.
8. DD's teammate's mom calls me in a panic around noon. She was stuck at work and asked if I could pretty please take her DD to practice, and she'd happily take my DD home. Said fine, was out and about in the area, anyway. Good deal.
9. Walked DD's teammate in, as I felt responsible for her and all. Saw other L3 moms huddled together. Ask "what's up". Am told the kids are working out later! Not usual time, but backed up a half an hour! Isn't that great!?!
10. Awesome mom working the desk asks us if we ever received anything about this weeks modified workout schedule fot the team girls.
11. Me = ?!?!?!?!?!?
12. Other moms = ?!?!?!?!?!?
13. Awesome mom rummages around for 10 minutes, and found the flyer that we never received.
14. Realize that not only did they change the workout TIMES, but the days, too! Oh, and we missed yesterday! They switched the kids from Tues/Wed to Mon/Tues! Surprise!
14.5. Am irritated, but convincing myself to let go. My DD wants to be a gymnast!
15. Awesome mom copies this sheet for us all, which is sweet, but not at all necessary anymore as, uh, there are no more practice times. Awesome mom calls L3 coach.
16. L3 coach finally arrives. Is not at all friendly, not that it's all that surprising. No apology. Just said she didn't know why we didn't get the sheet.
17. I get up the nerve to ask about TEAM camp, which was rumored to be just next week. Am told 3's don't do camp. I somehow get up the guts to ask if she's sure, as my paperwork says that NEXT WEEK they go two mornings per week for the team camp.
18. Coach not happy. She runs away without a word, into back room. Re-emerges about 8 min later with a form for team camp. 3's are mandatory 2 AFTERNOONS that week, on "new" days, and we can add an additional day.
19. Coach: "Please return RSVP today for next week. Did I not give these to you before?"
20. All of us moms: ?!?!?!??!?!?!?!
21. RSVP form has a deadline of July 15, so clearly, we should have received long ago.
22. Am increasingly irritated, but convincing myself to let go. My DD wants to be a gymnast!
23. Two moms, just arriving, admit they received a phone call about schedule change the afternoon before (but technically, as the practice was starting so they missed it).
24. I go home and do laundry! 2 hours later, DD is dropped off after class. Is not in a good mood at all. Asks why I didn't pick her up? I remind her that I told her she was getting a ride today since I brought gym BFF earlier.
24. She says, no mom, after CAMP? "Why did you make me sit there?"
25. Me = ?!?!?!?!?!?!?
26. Apparently, after camp was over, DD's coach never got her. She was never sent to her coach. DD, not knowing what to do, sat there for 60 minutes, all alone, crying.
27. DD has (diagnosed) childhood anxiety disorder and selective mutism, so no way is she capable of approaching someone and asking what is going on when she's worked up.
28. DD thought I forgot about her, and sat alone, watching her teammates (on way far side of gym) for an hour. No one called me. No one wondered why she was alone for an HOUR, crying.
29. Gym has always been a safe place for DD. She does not trust easily or feel comfortable easily. She lost some of that today.
30. I am beyond PO'd right now. I am so angry I don't know what to do with it. I want to approach the owner tomorrow about it (not attack him, but calmly discuss my concerns), but am terrified. Their attitude has pretty much been, if you don't like it, you can leave. They don't compromise. DD has to try out for L4 with 80 other kids in December. She needs nothing against her heading into that (esp. with her anxiety). If she doesn't make L4, she's out of the team program there and back into rec. She would be absolutely crushed. I don't want to get a black mark for questioning this, but at the same time, don't want to be steamrolled here!
31. They are so rude and condescending! I am a pretty tolerant person, but I do NOT care for DD's coach on a personal level. Not at all. And she doesn't really seem to enjoy her job, I have to say. (OK - personal rant now over!)
32. Closest other gym is an additional 25 minutes away on a good day, and I declined DD's spot on their team in June.
33. Communication does seem better for L4 and up, though still not perfect.
34. Aaarrrggghhhhhh! How many more years of this?
35. Thanks so much if you have any advice or just the ability to commiserate with me. Which, I have to say I hope none of you do (regarding the latter, anyway). Thanks so much for reading.
Anyway, I am extremely ticked at DD's gym, and could use some BTDT advice. Since my fingers are good and sore from my first attempt, I will try to summarize my issues in point format!
1. Have had communication issues at DD's gym from day 1, though not nearly this bad. DD has been in the team "system" for about 15 months now. Team is pretty competitive but not really an elite gym or anything. Our compulsories did pretty well at State last year, and our gym sent 5 of 8 Level 10's to National this year (I think that's good? I really have no clue).
2. DD is 7 and is currently on L3 preteam.
3. DD has had trouble with coach on and off (remember "loud coach" thread? that's us!). DD decided to "suck it up and stay" because she "loves her teammates" and she "wants to be a team girl" and "a new coach could be meaner, too". I agreed to it, for now, but told her I'd monitor the situation.
4. DD asked to do full day rec camp at our gym. I agreed (fun = good!) to let her. It is this week.
5. Pulled DD from rec camp after the morning session yesterday (just before lunch) due to pre-established playdate. Those are fun, too and darn it, it's summertime.
6. Drop DD off at camp this morning for a day of good times with new friends. Ask what the procedure was for her regular L3 class, as they conflicted at the end of the day. Was told that on Monday, only 1 L3 non-camper showed for class, so she joined the camp girls until the end of the camp day, then they worked with team coach for the remainder of the practice.
7. This should have registered as being "wrong" as I know neither L3 group practices on Mondays. But I don't think this til later.
8. DD's teammate's mom calls me in a panic around noon. She was stuck at work and asked if I could pretty please take her DD to practice, and she'd happily take my DD home. Said fine, was out and about in the area, anyway. Good deal.
9. Walked DD's teammate in, as I felt responsible for her and all. Saw other L3 moms huddled together. Ask "what's up". Am told the kids are working out later! Not usual time, but backed up a half an hour! Isn't that great!?!
10. Awesome mom working the desk asks us if we ever received anything about this weeks modified workout schedule fot the team girls.
11. Me = ?!?!?!?!?!?
12. Other moms = ?!?!?!?!?!?
13. Awesome mom rummages around for 10 minutes, and found the flyer that we never received.
14. Realize that not only did they change the workout TIMES, but the days, too! Oh, and we missed yesterday! They switched the kids from Tues/Wed to Mon/Tues! Surprise!
14.5. Am irritated, but convincing myself to let go. My DD wants to be a gymnast!
15. Awesome mom copies this sheet for us all, which is sweet, but not at all necessary anymore as, uh, there are no more practice times. Awesome mom calls L3 coach.
16. L3 coach finally arrives. Is not at all friendly, not that it's all that surprising. No apology. Just said she didn't know why we didn't get the sheet.
17. I get up the nerve to ask about TEAM camp, which was rumored to be just next week. Am told 3's don't do camp. I somehow get up the guts to ask if she's sure, as my paperwork says that NEXT WEEK they go two mornings per week for the team camp.
18. Coach not happy. She runs away without a word, into back room. Re-emerges about 8 min later with a form for team camp. 3's are mandatory 2 AFTERNOONS that week, on "new" days, and we can add an additional day.
19. Coach: "Please return RSVP today for next week. Did I not give these to you before?"
20. All of us moms: ?!?!?!??!?!?!?!
21. RSVP form has a deadline of July 15, so clearly, we should have received long ago.
22. Am increasingly irritated, but convincing myself to let go. My DD wants to be a gymnast!
23. Two moms, just arriving, admit they received a phone call about schedule change the afternoon before (but technically, as the practice was starting so they missed it).
24. I go home and do laundry! 2 hours later, DD is dropped off after class. Is not in a good mood at all. Asks why I didn't pick her up? I remind her that I told her she was getting a ride today since I brought gym BFF earlier.
24. She says, no mom, after CAMP? "Why did you make me sit there?"
25. Me = ?!?!?!?!?!?!?
26. Apparently, after camp was over, DD's coach never got her. She was never sent to her coach. DD, not knowing what to do, sat there for 60 minutes, all alone, crying.
27. DD has (diagnosed) childhood anxiety disorder and selective mutism, so no way is she capable of approaching someone and asking what is going on when she's worked up.
28. DD thought I forgot about her, and sat alone, watching her teammates (on way far side of gym) for an hour. No one called me. No one wondered why she was alone for an HOUR, crying.
29. Gym has always been a safe place for DD. She does not trust easily or feel comfortable easily. She lost some of that today.
30. I am beyond PO'd right now. I am so angry I don't know what to do with it. I want to approach the owner tomorrow about it (not attack him, but calmly discuss my concerns), but am terrified. Their attitude has pretty much been, if you don't like it, you can leave. They don't compromise. DD has to try out for L4 with 80 other kids in December. She needs nothing against her heading into that (esp. with her anxiety). If she doesn't make L4, she's out of the team program there and back into rec. She would be absolutely crushed. I don't want to get a black mark for questioning this, but at the same time, don't want to be steamrolled here!
31. They are so rude and condescending! I am a pretty tolerant person, but I do NOT care for DD's coach on a personal level. Not at all. And she doesn't really seem to enjoy her job, I have to say. (OK - personal rant now over!)
32. Closest other gym is an additional 25 minutes away on a good day, and I declined DD's spot on their team in June.
33. Communication does seem better for L4 and up, though still not perfect.
34. Aaarrrggghhhhhh! How many more years of this?
35. Thanks so much if you have any advice or just the ability to commiserate with me. Which, I have to say I hope none of you do (regarding the latter, anyway). Thanks so much for reading.