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Yes, this my DS started trampolining at 7 after about a year of rec gymnastics. He is now 11 and has been competing elite for a year now and he is one of the ones that started quite young. Other boys that started older than him at 8,9 or even 10, are starting to drip into the elite competitions now at age 13 or 14 mostly.He’s 5.
Tramp isn’t particularly early start so there’s no need to push at this age. My dd started tramp a year ago at 9. She did have a bit of a gymnastics background, but mainly rec level- no bhs, kip, or any of those gatekeeper skills. Apparently she is aiming at elite grades this year, and that’s through good coaching and being given the opportunity rather than any major talent.
This.He’s 5.
I’d take this opportunity to explore new things and make activities fun.
Rec gymnastics, trampoline. Find a new club, don’t mention his previous achievements, put him in rec and let them work things out with regard to how fast he moves to squad. It’ll give you both a bit of breathing space if he doesn’t go straight back into squad.
Swimming lessons, dance, climbing, lots of things to try which will condition and set up his physical ability and spatial awareness without the pressure of one sport.
Tramp isn’t particularly early start so there’s no need to push at this age. My dd started tramp a year ago at 9. She did have a bit of a gymnastics background, but mainly rec level- no bhs, kip, or any of those gatekeeper skills. Apparently she is aiming at elite grades this year, and that’s through good coaching and being given the opportunity rather than any major talent.
Brilliant post.Wow. Ok. I agree with what was said above about just finding another place your son can just do gym or some other fun physical activity without competition pressure. When and if he is ready for competing in any sport, you guys will know. But there is NO reason to rush right into something else. Take time to breathe and comfort your son.
Next- please, I know you are angry and frustrated, I get it, believe me. But try to keep things in rational perspective. Your son's "whole world" did not "break." At this age and level of investment in the sport, these are words appropriate for the death of or abandonment by a parent, not for being asked to leave a gym team. I think it is important to do what you can to minimize the upset at this point.
I suggest you and your husband discuss your frustrations and concerns about what happened in private with your son not there. Any communication with the gym or the coach should also be done well away from your son. To your son, do all you can to help him understand that this is NOT the end of the world. Because it isn't. Not in even in the short run. Yes I am sure he is very upset right now. He has a right to those feelings, of course. Let him express his own feelings. But try to not chime in on the outrage or increase his feelings of being wronged because of how upset and frustrated you are. Try not to talk about it too much. Instead comfort him by staying calm and at peace with the situation. Or at least appearing so. Basically this should be a disappointment he gets over rather quickly- in a matter of days if not sooner. Because of his age. If he gets the idea from you and your husband that this is a humongous deal, it will only increase his sense of being wronged- or, very likely, lead to him thinking he did something wrong, because kids tend to blame themselves when the adults around them are upset.
But I have questions. You do not have to explain it all here if you prefer not to of course. But I am just wondering what the communication was like.
Why on the eve of his first meet did the coach suddenly turn on your son, if that is what happened? It is just really odd.When you say the coach would not speak to you, what do you mean? How do you know your child is off the team if the coach did not speak to you? Did he tell your son? WHAT did he tell your son? This is important. If this coach is guilty of verbal abuse of your child or making him feel badly about himself, this is important info for you to have.
What about the cost of his competition uniform, meets, etc? Are you getting that back? Again, this is not something to discuss around your son, but I am just trying to gauge how poorly you and your son have been treated by this gym.
Ok so to answer your questions...
why did he turn on my son?
For the last week there had been back and forth as to whether my son was competing or not. I never heard anything from him, I either heard from my son what his coach said, or from the office girl. I attempted to contact him via text (his preferred communication) for a straight answer, I didn't care either way buy if he was going I needed to book a hotel and travel. This in his words "made us his only difficult parents" and he couldn't deal with us.
How did I know my son is off the team?
When I went in part way through practice yesterday the office girl informed me that his coach had said he can't coach my son anymore. I at that point asked to speak with coach, coach would not so I collected my son and his belongings.
What did he tell my son?
I do not know all my son is saying is coach is mean.
Cost of uniform/meet fees?
I do not know what if anything we will receive back. We had not paid any meet fees as they were just that unorganized. I was due to pay for this weekend's meet yesterday, but only if he was attending. The gym owner is out for awhile due to a freak accident (which is how things got so crazy to begin with) so at this point I'm taking it as a loss.