This may sound harsh but disappointment is a reality of life AND all sports. People say gymnastics is subjective but really there is a code of points that judges tend to follow pretty darn well. Usually if a routine is watched on video a judge or coach could point out the deductions. This is a...
I believe communication between parents and coaches goes both ways. A parent can check in at any time, email at any time, watch practice, etc .... I know at our gym there are FAR more athletes than coaches. I agree that communication is key and we only know one side BUT ... a lot of times the...
So in reading through ALL of this ... it *would* concern me if any coaches in any sport for any team denied me a meeting to discuss my child's progress. If you have asked for a meeting (or phone call) and they are not responding, that is a red flag.
THAT BEING SAID - is your daughter 100%...
How other people perceive you and your daughter is on THEM. Not you. Unfortunately, humans tends to create narratives that serve them. For example, if their daughter is struggling and consistently not hitting a skill, it becomes "we need more hours, we don't have enough coaches, she has a block...
The best advice I have adopted on this gym journey is know your role. There are 4. Athlete, Coach, Parent, Referee (Judge). Parent = drive, support, hug, listen, cheer. Sometimes less talking / advice is more. It's hard to see our kids struggle but we have to trust that the coach WILL get to it...
That's the whole "what should be" piece that adults fully understand. It sounds like you are mourning what cannot be now because of the injury. It's okay to say those things out loud. She can't compete. She can't get her 39. She can't get to regionals, etc. Sit with that for a bit because the...
I am glad that you all have answers. I know this feels like an insurmountable mountain right now. This too shall pass but in the meantime you have every right to feel your feelings. In fact, you need to. Naming the feelings - whether anger or frustration or just plain sad - is healthy. You have...
Well in that case you move to the new gym and miss 2 meets. I am not sure what there is to salvage here if you are leaving. It's like leaving a job. You know it is a risk - they may say see ya later. But that's true regardless of how you say it. That risk doesn't go away in this scenario. I...
I think we follow you on IG. I am so sorry you are going through this. First - congrats to your daughter on her accomplishments. She is clearly an amazing gymnast. That needs to be celebrated. My daughter's big ambitious goal is a 38, so what an inspiration your girl is to others. Second - my...
Have you asked her how she is feeling? Maybe a simple "let's talk. These are the options in front of us. What do you think?" She may surprise you and say "it's okay, I don't need to do state." Or she may say "I really want to go" and it's closure she needs. L4 state has 0 bearing on her gym...
Treat this like a business transaction. Use facts, no emotion. "Hi there, I am writing to let you know that effective XXX date, DD will be leaving the gym. We truly appreciate all of the time that you have devoted to her training. She will compete at XXX meet and YYY meet because those are...
I agree with you here 100%. To me it sounds like a case of the "ADHD talking" - it's so hard but the good news is that there are solutions. You sound like a well informed ADHD mama!
My older son has ADHD, so I understand entirely. Our gymnast does not have ADHD, but my question would be - does your gymnast take medication? If so, have you discussed with your pediatrician / counselor about what's happening presumably after school? I am not quick to medicate BUT I know that...
I actually am glad you asked as we compete against some gyms where they really "exaggerate" for lack of a better term the shapes. The casts are like OVER hollow. Then they do these weird shoulder shrugs coming out of certain basic skills like handstands on the floor. Like you can see the...
Yes and my comment was really to reassure you since I have a daughter the same age and level. She went from a career high on vault (9.625 if I remember) on the FHS vault during her L5 test out meet in the Fall back to the 8s. Needless to say, for a gymnast who is used to seeing some better...