Alibri
Proud Parent
My daughter is 6 and on the L2 team at her gym.
All of the compulsory levels have been through a whirlwind over the last two months. They lost a beloved coach that has been there for many years for a personal reason of hers, had a new coach that got fired in a matter of weeks, and now another new coach.
Today the current new coach that my daughter has had for about 3 weeks came up to me after practice today, and said we needed to talk. She said my daughter has been off task, and not listening to directions for stations. She said she has not been focusing and that she is not performing skills as well as she can because of this. She said she has had to redirect her attention many times and that she is distracted.
I was shocked and mortified, since I have not heard this in any of her school classes (she's in kindergarten), or from her previous coaches. I felt like I got to a place where I didn't need to stay at every practice, and I have only been staying once a week, on the day my younger daughter has practice. the L2 team seems to stay in the back where I can't see on those days, so I'm wondering if I need to stay more often now to see what's happening.
It was honestly a huge punch in the stomach and I have been thinking about it since this happened. I am definitely a "rule follower" and generally a timid person. My parents never faced anything like this when I was a young child, and it would have destroyed my younger self if I got into trouble with a coach or a teacher for any reason. This daughter is definitely my more headstrong daughter out of my two, but I had no idea that her behavior was to the point of being so off base that the coach needed to address it with me.
Part of me feels like my daughter might still be adjusting to the new routines and procedures of this new coach, and may not be bonded to her yet like she was to her original coach. Plus, she is 6.
BUT..I hate that the first impression this new coach has of her is negative and I am concerned about this reported behavior. It is not acceptable to me that my daughter would misbehave. My daughter says she LOVES gymnastics. She was one of the only girls who didn't come out crying yesterday because of the extra-hard conditioning and stretching that this new coach did with them. I want her to continue loving it, but still be able to focus and do her best.
Have any of you faced something similar? What would you/did you say to your child?
All of the compulsory levels have been through a whirlwind over the last two months. They lost a beloved coach that has been there for many years for a personal reason of hers, had a new coach that got fired in a matter of weeks, and now another new coach.
Today the current new coach that my daughter has had for about 3 weeks came up to me after practice today, and said we needed to talk. She said my daughter has been off task, and not listening to directions for stations. She said she has not been focusing and that she is not performing skills as well as she can because of this. She said she has had to redirect her attention many times and that she is distracted.
I was shocked and mortified, since I have not heard this in any of her school classes (she's in kindergarten), or from her previous coaches. I felt like I got to a place where I didn't need to stay at every practice, and I have only been staying once a week, on the day my younger daughter has practice. the L2 team seems to stay in the back where I can't see on those days, so I'm wondering if I need to stay more often now to see what's happening.
It was honestly a huge punch in the stomach and I have been thinking about it since this happened. I am definitely a "rule follower" and generally a timid person. My parents never faced anything like this when I was a young child, and it would have destroyed my younger self if I got into trouble with a coach or a teacher for any reason. This daughter is definitely my more headstrong daughter out of my two, but I had no idea that her behavior was to the point of being so off base that the coach needed to address it with me.
Part of me feels like my daughter might still be adjusting to the new routines and procedures of this new coach, and may not be bonded to her yet like she was to her original coach. Plus, she is 6.
BUT..I hate that the first impression this new coach has of her is negative and I am concerned about this reported behavior. It is not acceptable to me that my daughter would misbehave. My daughter says she LOVES gymnastics. She was one of the only girls who didn't come out crying yesterday because of the extra-hard conditioning and stretching that this new coach did with them. I want her to continue loving it, but still be able to focus and do her best.
Have any of you faced something similar? What would you/did you say to your child?