profmom
Proud Parent
My girl is having a very tough time right now. First year L7, struggling on every event, and right now thoroughly miserable. She's losing confidence in herself and showing signs of anxiety and depression.
The biggest issue is with bars -- she has her giants and a (not perfectly consistent) kip-cast handstand, but is having a lot of trouble with kip drills. Lately she cannot do 3-5 good ones in a row, and her coach won't let her move on to other things. The second biggest issue is floor. Earlier this season, she had a passable FHS-FT, but now she's having trouble with the tuck. She's doing fine with her Yurchenko timers but can't yet flip, and she hasn't yet been able to move from the BWO-BWO series to the BWO-BHS. She has a meet coming up soon and if she had to go tomorrow, I don't think she would be able to compete because she is such a basket case right now.
She seems right now to be in a rapid downward spiral -- she gets more anxious and then has worse practices and the coaches get more frustrated with her and she does worse. She feels like a failure, and that is very difficult to see in a formerly happy, confident, 11.5 YO girl. Is this just one of those things that many kids go through in optionals that will pass, or is it time to try to encourage her to think about leaving team?
She doesn't want me to talk to her coaches, but I think I will have to do this next week regardless of what she wants. I'm looking here for some wise advice from folks who've been there and done that.
The biggest issue is with bars -- she has her giants and a (not perfectly consistent) kip-cast handstand, but is having a lot of trouble with kip drills. Lately she cannot do 3-5 good ones in a row, and her coach won't let her move on to other things. The second biggest issue is floor. Earlier this season, she had a passable FHS-FT, but now she's having trouble with the tuck. She's doing fine with her Yurchenko timers but can't yet flip, and she hasn't yet been able to move from the BWO-BWO series to the BWO-BHS. She has a meet coming up soon and if she had to go tomorrow, I don't think she would be able to compete because she is such a basket case right now.
She seems right now to be in a rapid downward spiral -- she gets more anxious and then has worse practices and the coaches get more frustrated with her and she does worse. She feels like a failure, and that is very difficult to see in a formerly happy, confident, 11.5 YO girl. Is this just one of those things that many kids go through in optionals that will pass, or is it time to try to encourage her to think about leaving team?
She doesn't want me to talk to her coaches, but I think I will have to do this next week regardless of what she wants. I'm looking here for some wise advice from folks who've been there and done that.