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I know I posted about DD's very first meet and how one of the parents was kind of ugly and said some not so nice things to me. At the second meet this parent was pretty nice because her DD had a really good meet. At this last meet things got ugly again and at this point I'm thinking this parent is just really a sore loser. First of all, our DD's don't even compete against each other because they are in different age divisions. Second, they are teammates. Aren't we supposed to be cheering for each other? Third, aren't we supposed to be setting an example for our children with our behavior? Is it any surprise that her DD is in tears throughout the meet and after because she's focusing on her scores after every event rather than how she did her routine? I did tell this parent that it's better to not even look at scores or worry about them. She should tell her DD to focus on doing her best routine and that's it. She said something like that's easy for you to say because the judges just love your DD and give her good scores no matter what.
After every routine I'd get a little comment about how my DD was overscored because she's cute and the judges aren't holding her to the same standard as everyone else. This parent actually threw up her hands and said she was done when my DD got an 8.8 on beam with a fall and and her DD got a low 8 without a fall. She said the judges must not have counted her fall. This is so frustrating. I take the route of silence and just smile, but really it makes me so mad. I want to tell her what I really think. Really? Every judge at these different meets is just out to get your DD, but is giving mine extra points? It can't possibly be related to the actual routine she's doing? It can't be that she keeps her legs straight and pointed on everything? Doesn't she realize that every little thing is a deduction? Just doing the skills without falls is not all that goes into a score.
I am going to avoid sitting with her at all costs, but that would force me to isolate myself from the entire team. As I posted in another thread I'm very stressed out at meets and I really just can't deal with this additional stress. I'm having a hard enough time enjoying myself as it is.
During awards she was upset and her DD was upset and then I felt bad, but really it's not my fault. I felt like I couldn't even be happy for my DD because they were upset. Like I said before, they aren't even in the same age division at meets. It's not like my DD placing kept her DD from placing. I actually feel really sorry for her DD because she was sobbing after awards because her parents had promised her a puppy if she got all 9's. They are sending her the wrong message! It's not about scores. Now, I don't think a little treat is a bad thing, but at least focus it in the right direction. Don't focus on scores. I told DD she could get a doll leo at the end of the meet for trying her best. It wasn't really related to any specific thing and it's not like I think she tried harder because of that and I'd have let her get the doll leo even if she fell 10 times on every routine.
Ugh. I'm just so frustrated. Maybe when the season starts in the fall they'll compete in different sessions or maybe I'll bring a bunch of family so there are no available chairs near me.
After every routine I'd get a little comment about how my DD was overscored because she's cute and the judges aren't holding her to the same standard as everyone else. This parent actually threw up her hands and said she was done when my DD got an 8.8 on beam with a fall and and her DD got a low 8 without a fall. She said the judges must not have counted her fall. This is so frustrating. I take the route of silence and just smile, but really it makes me so mad. I want to tell her what I really think. Really? Every judge at these different meets is just out to get your DD, but is giving mine extra points? It can't possibly be related to the actual routine she's doing? It can't be that she keeps her legs straight and pointed on everything? Doesn't she realize that every little thing is a deduction? Just doing the skills without falls is not all that goes into a score.
I am going to avoid sitting with her at all costs, but that would force me to isolate myself from the entire team. As I posted in another thread I'm very stressed out at meets and I really just can't deal with this additional stress. I'm having a hard enough time enjoying myself as it is.
During awards she was upset and her DD was upset and then I felt bad, but really it's not my fault. I felt like I couldn't even be happy for my DD because they were upset. Like I said before, they aren't even in the same age division at meets. It's not like my DD placing kept her DD from placing. I actually feel really sorry for her DD because she was sobbing after awards because her parents had promised her a puppy if she got all 9's. They are sending her the wrong message! It's not about scores. Now, I don't think a little treat is a bad thing, but at least focus it in the right direction. Don't focus on scores. I told DD she could get a doll leo at the end of the meet for trying her best. It wasn't really related to any specific thing and it's not like I think she tried harder because of that and I'd have let her get the doll leo even if she fell 10 times on every routine.
Ugh. I'm just so frustrated. Maybe when the season starts in the fall they'll compete in different sessions or maybe I'll bring a bunch of family so there are no available chairs near me.