Also, many people have mentioned a "rec" team for dd or a less progressive program. I think that would send a message of "failure" too if we said that she HAD to go there instead. I did ask her if she liked that option and she said she did not want to do that. She would not be with her friends anymore (one of the reasons she is still doing this.)
We have considered other options too, just so you know.
We have considered other options too, just so you know.