Thanks for the add to this forum. I'm a fairly new gymnastics parent- my DD is 10 and has been doing gymnastics for about 2 years.
Thanks so much to everyone for your input. Honestly, I'm no expert, but the things that she really has down- her cartwheels, handstands, and kickovers
Based on the little info above, I would say your DD has not got many skills for her age and time in gym. Equally many parents don't know the names of skills, so it is possible you left out a bunch of impressive skills she can do. I would say comparative to the kids within my gym's rec program of a similar age and level that your DD takes a longer time to develop her skills than average. This is not a bad thing, but this would help to explain why the coach was blunt and somewhat callous in her response when you mentioned competitions. I would suggest investigating some other gyms that may have a program better suited to your DD (one with a nicer coach perhaps) and who may offer a competitive path for all kids who put in the effort and have the desire.