Hi,
My DD who is 9 is competing level 4 for the first time this year (first competition is in Oct). She loves the sport and is practicing 4 days a week 14.5 hours right now. The issue is during the summer she was chosen to train with the older optional girls and she loved working the harder skills and pushing herself. Now that school has started back the girls were re-grouped and her friend who is also competing level 4 is still training with the older girls and my DD is back with the girls her own age (all 4th and 5th graders). I have trust in her coaches and I know that she has some cleaning up of skills to do before she competes and she's where she needs to be. The problem is she keeps coming home from practice upset and sometimes crying because she sees her friend doing the skills she wants to be learning and considers her group to be "baby." I have tried to tell her to focus on her own journey and keep working hard and one day she can work those skills too but I'm getting nowhere. She tends to be a jealous personality so compares herself to others quite a lot. Does anyone have advice for how to get my happy girl back again and to get her to see she needs to only focus on herself? It doesn't help that we carpool with the other girl and she tends to talk up all the awesome things she gets to do at practice in the car. Any advice is appreciated!
My DD who is 9 is competing level 4 for the first time this year (first competition is in Oct). She loves the sport and is practicing 4 days a week 14.5 hours right now. The issue is during the summer she was chosen to train with the older optional girls and she loved working the harder skills and pushing herself. Now that school has started back the girls were re-grouped and her friend who is also competing level 4 is still training with the older girls and my DD is back with the girls her own age (all 4th and 5th graders). I have trust in her coaches and I know that she has some cleaning up of skills to do before she competes and she's where she needs to be. The problem is she keeps coming home from practice upset and sometimes crying because she sees her friend doing the skills she wants to be learning and considers her group to be "baby." I have tried to tell her to focus on her own journey and keep working hard and one day she can work those skills too but I'm getting nowhere. She tends to be a jealous personality so compares herself to others quite a lot. Does anyone have advice for how to get my happy girl back again and to get her to see she needs to only focus on herself? It doesn't help that we carpool with the other girl and she tends to talk up all the awesome things she gets to do at practice in the car. Any advice is appreciated!