COz
Proud Parent
I think if *you* don't think of not competing as a demotion and clearly explain to your daughter your concerns she may surprise you.
We had an abusive situation in a dance school. Not quite as bad as that, but almost. My daughter started saying "it's OK that she yells at us because she's not angry, she just wants us to do better"...
At the point when we left, I don't think it had affected her very much, me more than her, but it had reached an inexcusable level. I was watching first hand. I'd defended the teacher for a long time and when that line was crossed we absolutely couldn't stay.
Yes, you need to learn to work with difficult people, people you don't like etc. tolerance, work ethic etc. but abuse is abuse and leaving my child in that school would have set her up for a lifetime of 'abuse is OK'.
I was amazed at the maturity and perception that my 5 year old showed when I discussed the situation and a potential move. I hadn't intented to go into as much detail as I eventually did about my reasons, but she wanted to talk about it more and I was really impressed. There was a definite shift, almost a relaxing, a relief in her when she realised that there was another option and she didn't have to keep tolerating the situation.
We had an abusive situation in a dance school. Not quite as bad as that, but almost. My daughter started saying "it's OK that she yells at us because she's not angry, she just wants us to do better"...
At the point when we left, I don't think it had affected her very much, me more than her, but it had reached an inexcusable level. I was watching first hand. I'd defended the teacher for a long time and when that line was crossed we absolutely couldn't stay.
Yes, you need to learn to work with difficult people, people you don't like etc. tolerance, work ethic etc. but abuse is abuse and leaving my child in that school would have set her up for a lifetime of 'abuse is OK'.
I was amazed at the maturity and perception that my 5 year old showed when I discussed the situation and a potential move. I hadn't intented to go into as much detail as I eventually did about my reasons, but she wanted to talk about it more and I was really impressed. There was a definite shift, almost a relaxing, a relief in her when she realised that there was another option and she didn't have to keep tolerating the situation.