Ok - this is a bit of a rant. If you have advice, much appreciated. But really I need to get this out and I figure someone here will get it.
Also - I fully and totally understand this is my DDs sport. Thank goodness, I'd be dead if someone told me I needed to do a BHS on a 4" beam. But she does it. She loves it. She is happy. So I'm smiling and paying the bills.
My issue isn't about the sport, it's the parents. Specifically DDs current teammates parents.
I've survived CGMs (might have even been one during her Level 2 season) and girls (and the parents) coming and going and each year getting to know new parents and missing those that have left. I'm rarely in the gym so really my main interaction with other parents this season is at meets. And it's sucks.
DDs team (her level specifically) is made up of all girls she didn't compete with last year. So new parents - that's fine by me. I'm not looking for a new BFF, just fellow parents who get it. Who understand that although this is their sport, we have to sit in the convention center for 4 hours too. Let's make the best of it and in the end we will all be happier. A little team spirit helps everyone too.
I've tried to be nice...and talk to them and get to know them and the girls. But something isn't clicking. I don't know what happened last year (some of these girls competed together, some not) that maybe there was drama and now they are checked out?
Does it seem crazy that I am looking for a friendly word at a meet, perhaps sitting together and cheering for our girls? I don't know, maybe a team dinner at a pizza place when we are all out of town at a meet together wouldn't be too much to ask. I mean - we are all tired and stressed and I'll share my vino with you! I feel like this particular group of parents isn't just not friendly, they are the opposite. Two meets in and no one wants to do dinner (before or after a meet - don't they eat?), they don't sit together at the meet, and I seem to be the only parent telling the other girls good job and you rocked.
In DDs prior years the other moms were just nicer to each other and the kids. I had some friends (well, still friends but their DDs not on this team) and we at least knew there was someone else who got it. You know - "Wowzer, this meet is taking forever! Let's discuss our favorite leos!"
So - that's my rant. The moms aren't nice...to me. They aren't mean. They aren't excluding me from anything, they just seem totally unengaged. It's just a bizarre dynamic IMO. I'd like to enjoy the whole experience more and I know I would if I had a fellow mom or two to chill with. But as I stated, it's not about me. I know. But still...ugh.
Also - I fully and totally understand this is my DDs sport. Thank goodness, I'd be dead if someone told me I needed to do a BHS on a 4" beam. But she does it. She loves it. She is happy. So I'm smiling and paying the bills.
My issue isn't about the sport, it's the parents. Specifically DDs current teammates parents.
I've survived CGMs (might have even been one during her Level 2 season) and girls (and the parents) coming and going and each year getting to know new parents and missing those that have left. I'm rarely in the gym so really my main interaction with other parents this season is at meets. And it's sucks.
DDs team (her level specifically) is made up of all girls she didn't compete with last year. So new parents - that's fine by me. I'm not looking for a new BFF, just fellow parents who get it. Who understand that although this is their sport, we have to sit in the convention center for 4 hours too. Let's make the best of it and in the end we will all be happier. A little team spirit helps everyone too.
I've tried to be nice...and talk to them and get to know them and the girls. But something isn't clicking. I don't know what happened last year (some of these girls competed together, some not) that maybe there was drama and now they are checked out?
Does it seem crazy that I am looking for a friendly word at a meet, perhaps sitting together and cheering for our girls? I don't know, maybe a team dinner at a pizza place when we are all out of town at a meet together wouldn't be too much to ask. I mean - we are all tired and stressed and I'll share my vino with you! I feel like this particular group of parents isn't just not friendly, they are the opposite. Two meets in and no one wants to do dinner (before or after a meet - don't they eat?), they don't sit together at the meet, and I seem to be the only parent telling the other girls good job and you rocked.
In DDs prior years the other moms were just nicer to each other and the kids. I had some friends (well, still friends but their DDs not on this team) and we at least knew there was someone else who got it. You know - "Wowzer, this meet is taking forever! Let's discuss our favorite leos!"
So - that's my rant. The moms aren't nice...to me. They aren't mean. They aren't excluding me from anything, they just seem totally unengaged. It's just a bizarre dynamic IMO. I'd like to enjoy the whole experience more and I know I would if I had a fellow mom or two to chill with. But as I stated, it's not about me. I know. But still...ugh.