My little man will be 4 yrs old March 20th. He is trying desperatly to become his own person, yet keeps following suit of Kadee. You can tell he wants to be his own person, but is just too comfortable following.
He wants to be a football player. He actually wants to play for the University of Arkansas, be a Razorback and have people watch him on TV...lol. Its an obtainable goal. (if not for UA..maybe another school) so I dont want to dicourage him..but I also dont want to put a false positive in his head either. (same as with Kadee and gymnastics..she wants to be a Gymback when she "grows up").
Thing is at this time, at least here, there are no "football" programs (flag..peewee) until age 5. So I still have a year to figure out what to do with him.
He loves gymnastics, but past the preschool level sadly our gym doesnt have any boys. So even though he can still stay in gym (since he will still be a "preschooler") for another year, after that point..there is no where for him to really go. They have a rec program for girls and there are girls of all ages going..but NO BOYS past preschool.
Its not all about whether they have a competitive level for boys. He doesnt have the personality for that kind of competition anyway. As a "group" he would be fantastic..but he could not get out anywhere by himself and have people watching him. Hes jsut too shy, too reserved. He would do better in a "team" (as far as they preform whatever as a group) setting. Which he is loving the gym, but then again..hes in it because Sissy does it, and he wants to be like his big sister, you know?
We thought about putting him in t-ball or SOMETHING. But it seems like nothing really starts for boys around here until they are 5.
So what to do for my little man for a year. Something where he could be a part of a whole. Something his sister doesnt do. Something that is just "Bubba". Any ideas for something to involve him in. That is age appropirate. Low stress..fun. Where he can spend time with other boys his age...doing boy things. He has his preschool friends. 2 of them that they go to each others houses. All 3 of us moms are trying to help them build their social skills, independence, ect. At this point us 3 moms cant seem to come up with any ideas.
Im not trying to force him into anything. Im not setting my sights on him playing college ball. Im just trying to figure out how to help him firgure out who he is..seperate from his sister. She started gym when she was 2 1/2 in a mommy and me class and that is her "thing". I guess I just feel bad that he is practicly 4 and I still havent been able to help him in that. For some reason there just doesnt seem to be as many options for boys at this young of age as there are for girls. Maybe its just our location..i dont know.
Any ideas aside from going to preschool 2 days a week. Having a play date 2 times a month (we try to do it that often), and the gymnastics class he gets 1 day a week during his preschool (his preschool is at the gym). He really wants to play football. Its all he talks about. He loves to sit and watch football with daddy..even if he has no clue who is playing..he seems to have a descent idea of what is goign on in the game. (i think my daddy came back in my son..lol). He has a football that he loves to throw..and he has a great throw on him for 4. (not so great at catching..lol). He has a razorback themed bedroom (by his request)..he is even having a razorback themed birthday party. He is only 4 I know, and will probably change his mind many many times about what he wants to do..but for now, this is what he wants..but its not offered for another year.
What do i do in the mean time?
Sorry so long..and im babbling as normal. Im just really lost with him.
He wants to be a football player. He actually wants to play for the University of Arkansas, be a Razorback and have people watch him on TV...lol. Its an obtainable goal. (if not for UA..maybe another school) so I dont want to dicourage him..but I also dont want to put a false positive in his head either. (same as with Kadee and gymnastics..she wants to be a Gymback when she "grows up").
Thing is at this time, at least here, there are no "football" programs (flag..peewee) until age 5. So I still have a year to figure out what to do with him.
He loves gymnastics, but past the preschool level sadly our gym doesnt have any boys. So even though he can still stay in gym (since he will still be a "preschooler") for another year, after that point..there is no where for him to really go. They have a rec program for girls and there are girls of all ages going..but NO BOYS past preschool.
Its not all about whether they have a competitive level for boys. He doesnt have the personality for that kind of competition anyway. As a "group" he would be fantastic..but he could not get out anywhere by himself and have people watching him. Hes jsut too shy, too reserved. He would do better in a "team" (as far as they preform whatever as a group) setting. Which he is loving the gym, but then again..hes in it because Sissy does it, and he wants to be like his big sister, you know?
We thought about putting him in t-ball or SOMETHING. But it seems like nothing really starts for boys around here until they are 5.
So what to do for my little man for a year. Something where he could be a part of a whole. Something his sister doesnt do. Something that is just "Bubba". Any ideas for something to involve him in. That is age appropirate. Low stress..fun. Where he can spend time with other boys his age...doing boy things. He has his preschool friends. 2 of them that they go to each others houses. All 3 of us moms are trying to help them build their social skills, independence, ect. At this point us 3 moms cant seem to come up with any ideas.
Im not trying to force him into anything. Im not setting my sights on him playing college ball. Im just trying to figure out how to help him firgure out who he is..seperate from his sister. She started gym when she was 2 1/2 in a mommy and me class and that is her "thing". I guess I just feel bad that he is practicly 4 and I still havent been able to help him in that. For some reason there just doesnt seem to be as many options for boys at this young of age as there are for girls. Maybe its just our location..i dont know.
Any ideas aside from going to preschool 2 days a week. Having a play date 2 times a month (we try to do it that often), and the gymnastics class he gets 1 day a week during his preschool (his preschool is at the gym). He really wants to play football. Its all he talks about. He loves to sit and watch football with daddy..even if he has no clue who is playing..he seems to have a descent idea of what is goign on in the game. (i think my daddy came back in my son..lol). He has a football that he loves to throw..and he has a great throw on him for 4. (not so great at catching..lol). He has a razorback themed bedroom (by his request)..he is even having a razorback themed birthday party. He is only 4 I know, and will probably change his mind many many times about what he wants to do..but for now, this is what he wants..but its not offered for another year.
What do i do in the mean time?
Sorry so long..and im babbling as normal. Im just really lost with him.