I’m not sure how what I wrote was trying to prove that you’re wrong. Like you said, I agree that both are force...just trying to help decipher why people react differently to the type of force you are describing. If you feel that forcing her to keep YOUR commitment is the right parenting move, that’s your decision to make, definitely.you guys so hard to prove that I’m wrong but yet agreeing with me. Ok what you said makes sense, once again force is force regardless if it’s my commitment or her commitment it’s the same thing.