So, DD has her first gym fear. Over the summer, while being spotted on cast to handstand, DD's coach pushed her over the bar. Apparently, she wasn't getting vertical and coach wanted her to understand it was "ok" to go further. Well, it backfired as DD freaked out, let go of the bar, and landed on her back. She got the wind knocked out of her. I wasn't there when it happened, so to add to this, now DD doesn't want me to leave her practices.
To add to this even more, it has also translated to handstands on the beam, as well... A skill she "had" before this happened. I feel awful for DD, she has worked so hard.
Anyhow, her fear has really come into play since the school year started. I think she's a bit more tired, making her more emotional. This past Monday, DD cried before practice and coach had to grab her to get her to go onto the floor.
Thursday, DD panicked again. Claimed to have a headache, tummy ache, etc. She has anxiety, and these are her normal complaints when she wants to avoid something. I was frustrated, I admit, and (again) told her that we made a commitment and that she needed to go. I said everyone has fears, and that being brave is working through them. Told her that she'll be so proud when she gets it. That we'd talk to coach (again, had already talked to her on Monday) and make sure she's extra careful... anyway, I made her go to gym. I stayed, as my younger son also had a tot class. Well, DD cried all the way through bars. Went to floor. Cried again. Coach sent her to get a tissue. DD had a complete breakdown in the bathroom and began to hyperventilate. I called my husband to pick her up. My heart broke, and couldn't help but feel frustrated over it and I was snuggling/comforting DD.
Well, 20 minutes later, my husband called. DD had a temp of 102. Thus, she was sick. I felt like a jerk. She'd felt warm, but she'd worn her full track suit in school all day (temp was 70 degrees), and she was upset, so I thought she was simply warm from that. Uggg - I hate myself.
Anyway, we skipped her "optional" 3rd practice day yesterday, and she stayed home from school. I gave her extra love and attention. I still feel like a jerk.
So, I suppose the future thermometer use will be required in a similar situation. Though I am still not sure how to handle the fear thing beyond continuing to encourage her. Is this something to consider pulling her for? She has some inborn anxiety. I thought perhaps this could help her learn to handle it in a healthy way (psychologist concurred), now I am second-guessing myself. She's a 7 year old preteam kid ("level 3").
Thanks for reading.
-Jerkymamaoftwo
To add to this even more, it has also translated to handstands on the beam, as well... A skill she "had" before this happened. I feel awful for DD, she has worked so hard.
Anyhow, her fear has really come into play since the school year started. I think she's a bit more tired, making her more emotional. This past Monday, DD cried before practice and coach had to grab her to get her to go onto the floor.
Thursday, DD panicked again. Claimed to have a headache, tummy ache, etc. She has anxiety, and these are her normal complaints when she wants to avoid something. I was frustrated, I admit, and (again) told her that we made a commitment and that she needed to go. I said everyone has fears, and that being brave is working through them. Told her that she'll be so proud when she gets it. That we'd talk to coach (again, had already talked to her on Monday) and make sure she's extra careful... anyway, I made her go to gym. I stayed, as my younger son also had a tot class. Well, DD cried all the way through bars. Went to floor. Cried again. Coach sent her to get a tissue. DD had a complete breakdown in the bathroom and began to hyperventilate. I called my husband to pick her up. My heart broke, and couldn't help but feel frustrated over it and I was snuggling/comforting DD.
Well, 20 minutes later, my husband called. DD had a temp of 102. Thus, she was sick. I felt like a jerk. She'd felt warm, but she'd worn her full track suit in school all day (temp was 70 degrees), and she was upset, so I thought she was simply warm from that. Uggg - I hate myself.
Anyway, we skipped her "optional" 3rd practice day yesterday, and she stayed home from school. I gave her extra love and attention. I still feel like a jerk.
So, I suppose the future thermometer use will be required in a similar situation. Though I am still not sure how to handle the fear thing beyond continuing to encourage her. Is this something to consider pulling her for? She has some inborn anxiety. I thought perhaps this could help her learn to handle it in a healthy way (psychologist concurred), now I am second-guessing myself. She's a 7 year old preteam kid ("level 3").
Thanks for reading.
-Jerkymamaoftwo