I have a very hard time drawing the line between being a Crazy Gym Mom and keeping my daughter (10) in check behaviorally. I was wondering if anyone else struggles with this? I know that many of you have children that are wonderfully self-motivated and disciplined and my daughter just.......isn't. In anything. I believe she may have ADHD, but she is not currently medicated. Her teachers at school have said it's not necessary for her there and I don't want to medicate just for sports.
I'm also coaching her in the gym so that provides a whole new level of struggle, but honestly, I don't care if she ever reaches the pinnacle of the sport. Likely, she will not. I DO care GREATLY that she gives her best shot, listens to corrections, and is respectful in gym. She is usually pretty respectful, but the corrections and 100% effort thing don't happen all the time. She lacks focus and sometimes she will be saying something to someone right before she has a turn, fling her body in the air and I know she's given no thought to any correction. When another coach or I give her a correction, she stands quietly but I can tell she's not really 100% engaged.
Of course, on the days she is focused, her gymnastics is 100000% percent better. Amazingly so, really.
So, as a parent, I have been staying on her about these issues in gymnastics and in the other sport she participates in. Like I said, it is not gymnastics. I also see the same thing when she does her homework at home. I feel like I need to stay and watch the other sport so I can give her the evil eye when it's necessary, but then at the same time, I feel like I'm sucking the fun out of the activities when I do that.
Her other coach has never said anything to me about it, so maybe I should drop it and be glad she's exercising and in shape? We've already dropped down from a more intense program and she's doing XCEL now. Life has been much better since then, but the focus issues all over the board still exist. Any advice or words of wisdom?
I'm also coaching her in the gym so that provides a whole new level of struggle, but honestly, I don't care if she ever reaches the pinnacle of the sport. Likely, she will not. I DO care GREATLY that she gives her best shot, listens to corrections, and is respectful in gym. She is usually pretty respectful, but the corrections and 100% effort thing don't happen all the time. She lacks focus and sometimes she will be saying something to someone right before she has a turn, fling her body in the air and I know she's given no thought to any correction. When another coach or I give her a correction, she stands quietly but I can tell she's not really 100% engaged.
Of course, on the days she is focused, her gymnastics is 100000% percent better. Amazingly so, really.
So, as a parent, I have been staying on her about these issues in gymnastics and in the other sport she participates in. Like I said, it is not gymnastics. I also see the same thing when she does her homework at home. I feel like I need to stay and watch the other sport so I can give her the evil eye when it's necessary, but then at the same time, I feel like I'm sucking the fun out of the activities when I do that.
Her other coach has never said anything to me about it, so maybe I should drop it and be glad she's exercising and in shape? We've already dropped down from a more intense program and she's doing XCEL now. Life has been much better since then, but the focus issues all over the board still exist. Any advice or words of wisdom?