Today I went to pick up my DD from practice and the coach pulled me aside to tell me that she had a really bad practice. She was frustrated and tearful most of the practice, and when the coach tried to talk to her she turned her back and walked away. The head coach then stepped in and tried to have a conversation with her as well and she walked away from him - which is hard for me to imagine because he has such a great relationship with his girls and my daughter respects him more than anyone else in her life. Needless to say, this did not go over well. She ended up having sit out for 10 minutes in practice and walked out of the gym sobbing, like crying so hard she couldn't catch her breath.
I cannot even BEGIN to explain how uncharacteristic this is of my daughter - the disrespectful part. The frustration part has become a much bigger part of her story in the last few months. I know she's been coming home from many practices feeling upset. I know she expects WAY too much of herself and refuses to give herself credit for what she's doing well. She interprets any setback as a failure and spends way too much time and energy putting way too much pressure on herself. At home, I've tried dealing with this by asking her to tell me one thing she's proud of at every practice and two things she was happy about, and then not talking about practice otherwise except for 5 minutes she gets to complain. It seemed to have helped.
But today she went into practice feeling tired, she's flaring up a little with her arthritis so her wrists were sore and she had a headache. I was working so I wasn't the one to drop her off, which means I wasn't there to let the coach know. And, my silly stubborn daughter refused to let the coach know until the VERY END of practice.
I don't know what to do. I don't know how to help her with this attitude problem and I'm very concerned that behavior like this, and an attitude like this, is going to seriously jeopardize her progress in the sport she loves so much. If she won't admit to feeling tired and sore, then the coach doesn't know what's wrong. (She told me later everything stemmed from bars. She was practicing baby giants and her wrists were killing her so she couldn't wrap them or shift them or something fast enough and she was slamming her hips into the bar. The coach was understandably frustrated with her practice because this is a skill that she has down pat, it should be easy for her and it seemed like she wasn't trying or listening. Instead, she was suffering, her wrists were aching and her hips are covered in fresh bruises. If she had JUST TOLD HER COACH what was going on they would have passed her off on the skill and moved her to something easier on her joints.)
I'm at a loss. I'm smart enough to know that this is the wrong time to harp on this with her. We had a conversation about respecting her coaches and how body language says more than words, then we dropped it. But the CGM in me just wants to talk and talk and talk about it. Thank goodness for Chalk Bucket - where I can spew my crazy and keep my daughter safe from it at the same time!
I cannot even BEGIN to explain how uncharacteristic this is of my daughter - the disrespectful part. The frustration part has become a much bigger part of her story in the last few months. I know she's been coming home from many practices feeling upset. I know she expects WAY too much of herself and refuses to give herself credit for what she's doing well. She interprets any setback as a failure and spends way too much time and energy putting way too much pressure on herself. At home, I've tried dealing with this by asking her to tell me one thing she's proud of at every practice and two things she was happy about, and then not talking about practice otherwise except for 5 minutes she gets to complain. It seemed to have helped.
But today she went into practice feeling tired, she's flaring up a little with her arthritis so her wrists were sore and she had a headache. I was working so I wasn't the one to drop her off, which means I wasn't there to let the coach know. And, my silly stubborn daughter refused to let the coach know until the VERY END of practice.
I don't know what to do. I don't know how to help her with this attitude problem and I'm very concerned that behavior like this, and an attitude like this, is going to seriously jeopardize her progress in the sport she loves so much. If she won't admit to feeling tired and sore, then the coach doesn't know what's wrong. (She told me later everything stemmed from bars. She was practicing baby giants and her wrists were killing her so she couldn't wrap them or shift them or something fast enough and she was slamming her hips into the bar. The coach was understandably frustrated with her practice because this is a skill that she has down pat, it should be easy for her and it seemed like she wasn't trying or listening. Instead, she was suffering, her wrists were aching and her hips are covered in fresh bruises. If she had JUST TOLD HER COACH what was going on they would have passed her off on the skill and moved her to something easier on her joints.)
I'm at a loss. I'm smart enough to know that this is the wrong time to harp on this with her. We had a conversation about respecting her coaches and how body language says more than words, then we dropped it. But the CGM in me just wants to talk and talk and talk about it. Thank goodness for Chalk Bucket - where I can spew my crazy and keep my daughter safe from it at the same time!