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Anonymous (ef50)
My daughter and her teammates are almost all first year 9s and had their first meet last weekend. Overall the meet was pretty disastrous, everyone fell at least once, with most girls on 2-3 events. Not a single girl hit every routine. After my daughter fell on a dismount the coach was visibly frustrated and walked away from her as she was in tears upset/frustrated with herself. My daughter also mentioned they all got a stern talking to at the end of the meet about how they didn’t perform the way they have been in the gym. I see videos and stories of other coaches hugging or comforting girls after a bad routine, and our girls never get that. The coaches have no problem hugging, high-fiving and showing affection after great routines.
I mentioned my feelings to my teenage daughter and she brushed me off saying “mom we all did bad, you can’t expect them to be nice about it”. She didn’t seem bothered at all about how the coaches reacted.
She loves her coaches, and most of the time I do too, but their reactions and expectations at meets are really bugging me. This isn’t the first time I’ve noticed it either, they’ve had girls quit in the past because they think the coach is mean.
Is this ok/normal behavior?
I mentioned my feelings to my teenage daughter and she brushed me off saying “mom we all did bad, you can’t expect them to be nice about it”. She didn’t seem bothered at all about how the coaches reacted.
She loves her coaches, and most of the time I do too, but their reactions and expectations at meets are really bugging me. This isn’t the first time I’ve noticed it either, they’ve had girls quit in the past because they think the coach is mean.
Is this ok/normal behavior?