SuperMama
Proud Parent
At my daughters gym they don't officially compete until L3 so for the pre-team girls they do an end of year in house meet. My daughter was all about that meet. Now that it's over I've noticed the last few practices have been progressively worse for her. She's been zoning out and/or intentionally giving up on that didn't come easily. Fast forward to tonight where she had to be spoken too a few times by her coach for not listening and then was goofing off in a way that I felt was unsafe.
After several subtle attempts to tell her that it's important to pay attention, this time I gave her a long lecture on the way home about how we expect her to be a good listener and be respectful of the coach. Also about how she should be trying her best and how she cannot improve (in any activity) if she doesn't work hard.
She said that she couldn't do the activities because either her hands hurt (from bars) or her arms hurt (from the activities I guess) but I didn't give her much attention on the pain out of frustration with her poor behavior that evening.
It occurred to me after some down time that she may have lost her motivation now that the shiny goal of preparing her skills for a meet is gone and that I may have been sucking the fun out of the activity with all of the nagging.
DD is a sweet girl and a sensitive kid so she can get very discouraged when things don't go her way. I think I made a mommy faux pas by pushing too hard. [emoji53]
Any non-nagging tips to helping little ones overcome the frustration when things get tough? I want her to feel confident vs feeling like she should give up when a task is too challenging. We're working on this lesson outside of the gym as well so any tips are welcome.
After several subtle attempts to tell her that it's important to pay attention, this time I gave her a long lecture on the way home about how we expect her to be a good listener and be respectful of the coach. Also about how she should be trying her best and how she cannot improve (in any activity) if she doesn't work hard.
She said that she couldn't do the activities because either her hands hurt (from bars) or her arms hurt (from the activities I guess) but I didn't give her much attention on the pain out of frustration with her poor behavior that evening.
It occurred to me after some down time that she may have lost her motivation now that the shiny goal of preparing her skills for a meet is gone and that I may have been sucking the fun out of the activity with all of the nagging.
DD is a sweet girl and a sensitive kid so she can get very discouraged when things don't go her way. I think I made a mommy faux pas by pushing too hard. [emoji53]
Any non-nagging tips to helping little ones overcome the frustration when things get tough? I want her to feel confident vs feeling like she should give up when a task is too challenging. We're working on this lesson outside of the gym as well so any tips are welcome.