I have been rolling this around in my head since wednesday and I need to get it out..lol.
First a little bit of back story. My daughter is 5. She has been doing gymnastics since she was 2 1/2. Started in a mommy and me type class. At 3 she went to a class where she was out there with the class and coach, but no mommy. Not long after she turned 3 we moved states. She started a new gym and they "prescreened" her and put her in an elevated class for her age group. Sadly before she turned 4 we moved again, and she started at the gym she is at now. When we first went there, the first day she was there they pulled her aside and the HC spend the hour with her. Just talking to her, getting to know her and seeing what she could and couldnt do to see where to place her. The ended up putting her in a sorta pre team class. Where it was just 3 kids (including her) and they worked one on one prepping them to enter the L2 team. She spent about 9 to 10 months doing that. Then in June they moved her to the team. Okay all that said..lol
Wednesday, she was at practice, doing her "thang"..lol. And this lady, whos 5 yr old daughter was starting that day was just wrapping up with the prescreening with the HC. The HC told her that they were going to put her daughter on the pre team until this season was over then they would reasses and see if she is ready for team. The lady went nuts. Screaming and yelling. Saying they had just moved there from Illinois, and there she was already on the team, and what kind of place were they running? Now mind you she is in the gym where the girls are training. Then she singles out Kadee. Talking about why is she on the team. She cant do this or that. Naming big moves that is just unthinkable for a child her age to do. Karma (the HC) told her that no she couldnt do those moves. And at her age she shouldnt do those moves. That her body isnt mature enough to do those moves. And some of them just the act of doing or trying to do them could cause damage let alone a failed attempt at doing them. That they have a standard routine they do on all aparatis at her age, and that there is a reason for that. She said she wasnt going to risk a girls well being just so she could brag and say she has a 5 yr old that can do a standing back tuck on the beam (which is one of the MANY things the lady rattled off). The lady was in her face, screaming and yelling and pointing at Kadee the whole time.
Its bad enough that she did this but my poor little 5 yr old Kadee's mind formed this into being her fault. It was her fault that this crazy lady was screaming at Ms. Karma. She was crying..and Ms. Morgan (an 18 yr old gymnast who helps Ms. Karma with the teams) was holding Kadee and she took her and the other girls out of the gym. They went over to the gym where the cheerleaders train and she was telling Mr. Steve (the owner) what going on. He or Ms. Morgan must have called the cops because after about 15 mins they showed up and took her outside. I dont know what happened after that, i think they just had her escorted out because she was refusing to leave.
I dont know, I know im rattling again. But im just mind boggled over this. For one, dont throw a temper tantrum in the gym in front of everyone including your own child because they didnt think she was as ready for team as you did. And two dont point fingers at another child because they are on team. I will be the first to admit that Kadee isnt able to do all the things she needs to do to preform her routines, but she is learning, and shes doing a dang good job at it. She works hard and she LOVES Ms. Karma and Ms. Morgan. No matter what i say to her i cant get her to understand that it wasnt her fault that this lady was yelling at Ms. Karma, all she knows and all her 5 yr old mind can see is that the lady was pointing at her, and yelling at Ms. Karma. Ms. Karma and Ms. Morgan pulled her aside ( to the conssesion stand, and bought her some popcorn and gatorade..lol) and told her that it wasnt her fault, that she didnt do anything wrong. Kadee kept saying but she kept talking about me, and thats why she was yelling at you. She doesnt think im good enough. If i could do those things then she wouldnt be yelling at you. She was just unconsolable.
What do you say to a 5 yr old to make her understnd that she did nothing wrong? That this lady is just a nut job? I know there is drama in this sport, but really? My 5yr old has already experience a major dose of it.
They dont have gymnastics next week. They are taking a week off with the schools starting back up and all. Then they go back the following week. I just hope she is better by then, and seeing Ms. Karma doesnt get it all going again for her.
Im lost on this one i really am.
Sorry its so long, but i just needed to get it out. Thanks for listening
First a little bit of back story. My daughter is 5. She has been doing gymnastics since she was 2 1/2. Started in a mommy and me type class. At 3 she went to a class where she was out there with the class and coach, but no mommy. Not long after she turned 3 we moved states. She started a new gym and they "prescreened" her and put her in an elevated class for her age group. Sadly before she turned 4 we moved again, and she started at the gym she is at now. When we first went there, the first day she was there they pulled her aside and the HC spend the hour with her. Just talking to her, getting to know her and seeing what she could and couldnt do to see where to place her. The ended up putting her in a sorta pre team class. Where it was just 3 kids (including her) and they worked one on one prepping them to enter the L2 team. She spent about 9 to 10 months doing that. Then in June they moved her to the team. Okay all that said..lol
Wednesday, she was at practice, doing her "thang"..lol. And this lady, whos 5 yr old daughter was starting that day was just wrapping up with the prescreening with the HC. The HC told her that they were going to put her daughter on the pre team until this season was over then they would reasses and see if she is ready for team. The lady went nuts. Screaming and yelling. Saying they had just moved there from Illinois, and there she was already on the team, and what kind of place were they running? Now mind you she is in the gym where the girls are training. Then she singles out Kadee. Talking about why is she on the team. She cant do this or that. Naming big moves that is just unthinkable for a child her age to do. Karma (the HC) told her that no she couldnt do those moves. And at her age she shouldnt do those moves. That her body isnt mature enough to do those moves. And some of them just the act of doing or trying to do them could cause damage let alone a failed attempt at doing them. That they have a standard routine they do on all aparatis at her age, and that there is a reason for that. She said she wasnt going to risk a girls well being just so she could brag and say she has a 5 yr old that can do a standing back tuck on the beam (which is one of the MANY things the lady rattled off). The lady was in her face, screaming and yelling and pointing at Kadee the whole time.
Its bad enough that she did this but my poor little 5 yr old Kadee's mind formed this into being her fault. It was her fault that this crazy lady was screaming at Ms. Karma. She was crying..and Ms. Morgan (an 18 yr old gymnast who helps Ms. Karma with the teams) was holding Kadee and she took her and the other girls out of the gym. They went over to the gym where the cheerleaders train and she was telling Mr. Steve (the owner) what going on. He or Ms. Morgan must have called the cops because after about 15 mins they showed up and took her outside. I dont know what happened after that, i think they just had her escorted out because she was refusing to leave.
I dont know, I know im rattling again. But im just mind boggled over this. For one, dont throw a temper tantrum in the gym in front of everyone including your own child because they didnt think she was as ready for team as you did. And two dont point fingers at another child because they are on team. I will be the first to admit that Kadee isnt able to do all the things she needs to do to preform her routines, but she is learning, and shes doing a dang good job at it. She works hard and she LOVES Ms. Karma and Ms. Morgan. No matter what i say to her i cant get her to understand that it wasnt her fault that this lady was yelling at Ms. Karma, all she knows and all her 5 yr old mind can see is that the lady was pointing at her, and yelling at Ms. Karma. Ms. Karma and Ms. Morgan pulled her aside ( to the conssesion stand, and bought her some popcorn and gatorade..lol) and told her that it wasnt her fault, that she didnt do anything wrong. Kadee kept saying but she kept talking about me, and thats why she was yelling at you. She doesnt think im good enough. If i could do those things then she wouldnt be yelling at you. She was just unconsolable.
What do you say to a 5 yr old to make her understnd that she did nothing wrong? That this lady is just a nut job? I know there is drama in this sport, but really? My 5yr old has already experience a major dose of it.
They dont have gymnastics next week. They are taking a week off with the schools starting back up and all. Then they go back the following week. I just hope she is better by then, and seeing Ms. Karma doesnt get it all going again for her.
Im lost on this one i really am.
Sorry its so long, but i just needed to get it out. Thanks for listening