Dd 13 L9 has been having trouble with a skill on beam. Landed it in earlier meets but lately has been falling even though she almost always gets it at practice (so she tells me--I rarely watch practice). So coach changed it and at her first meet trying it a couple weeks ago she fell again, a pretty bad miss. My dd is a perfectionist, a+ student etc. and isn't used to struggling so when she fell again I wasn't surprised to see her crying (she's not a big crier most of the time)but she appeared to be unusually inconsolable as I watched from the stands. One of the asst coaches was obviously trying to cheer her up.
She composed herself after that but began weeping again in the car the way home. I reminded her that everyone has struggles etc but then she told me "the coaches are mad at me," said that 's why she was more upset (than she's ever been). It turns out that it was only her beam coach who is,probably mad at her. I didn't notice but dd says coach didn't come over to her/ talk to her for just a few words like she always does, and like she did that day with all her other teammates.
Is there a good reason for doing this? (Silent treatment after a bad routine?). One of the other moms suggested that coach was in effect probably trying to toughen her up a bit -- dd is very sensitive. But I just can't buy that. I don't think I can talk to the coaches about this because they would likely take it as criticism of coaching style. I don't know anything about gymnastics but I know my kid and this approach is not going to help her get her routine. Actually I think it might cause her to become more stressed and nervous at meets so that she performs worse each time.
Right now I wish she would switch to a less dysfunctional sport but she loves gymnastics so I want to have her continue as long as she wants. Thoughts? Thanks. Sorry this is so long!
She composed herself after that but began weeping again in the car the way home. I reminded her that everyone has struggles etc but then she told me "the coaches are mad at me," said that 's why she was more upset (than she's ever been). It turns out that it was only her beam coach who is,probably mad at her. I didn't notice but dd says coach didn't come over to her/ talk to her for just a few words like she always does, and like she did that day with all her other teammates.
Is there a good reason for doing this? (Silent treatment after a bad routine?). One of the other moms suggested that coach was in effect probably trying to toughen her up a bit -- dd is very sensitive. But I just can't buy that. I don't think I can talk to the coaches about this because they would likely take it as criticism of coaching style. I don't know anything about gymnastics but I know my kid and this approach is not going to help her get her routine. Actually I think it might cause her to become more stressed and nervous at meets so that she performs worse each time.
Right now I wish she would switch to a less dysfunctional sport but she loves gymnastics so I want to have her continue as long as she wants. Thoughts? Thanks. Sorry this is so long!