Parents of teens/tweens... Do you monitor your kids' cell phones (smart phones especially)? If so, do you use a monitoring program or just ask them to hand them over periodically? If you use a program, what do you use and are you happy with it? I am of two minds... Feeling like I need to trust my kids and (to a degree) let them learn from their own mistakes. I don't really have the time or energy required to be a helicopter mom. At the same time, you hear stories of bad things happening and parents wishing they had known what was going on "before it was too late." Thoughts? Telling me "this is why I don't allow my kid to have a cell/smart phone" is fine, and I get it. But that horse has kind of left the barn... TIA