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Anonymous (6ea4)
Hey just looking for an outside point of view on a decision I’m trying to make. For a bit of background information I’m a level 8 gymnast trying to go 9 next season. This will be my last year of gymnastics as I am graduating. Recently my coach went off on surgery so I have been with a different coach since June and will be with her tell September.
I’ve been with this new coach for a few months now and she is absolutely amazing. She is so sweet and seems to truly care about alll her athletes. Before my coach went off on surgery she had given me what she would like to see in my level 9 routines. She had me working backhand backhands on beam for my connection but I really struggle with just a singular backhand spring as I was never taught proper basics for them so a backhand backhand is almost impossible for me to do. I asked my coach if I could do a connection with side Ariel in it but she refused. Anyways this new coach saw the BHBH was clearly not realistic and was much more understanding so she has started to let me work side Ariel round off as a connection. I was feeling a lot more confident and proud of myself as beam of as finally coming along.
Well my real coach came into watch and this new coach was scared she would get mad if I was works side Ariel round off so she told me to work BHBH that day. While my coach saw them on a low beam and was not happy at all she went on a rant about how they should be on a higher beam and that I wasn’t trying hard enough. She was super passive aggressive and asking me questions about what else I was working on cause I clearly hadn’t been working on BHBh hands. I explained to her that we were trying to fix the basics on my BHS but I was hesitant to tell her that I had also been working Ariel RO because I new she would get mad at the other coach. Anyway I ended up telling her that I was working a different connection and she was livid. Which I don’t understand why cause this connection will give me bonus. I ended up almost in tears about this and was so nervous the rest of practice that I would make her more mad. I had forgotten how anxious she can make me feel and honestly the entire day my gymnastics was off. Well at the end of the day this new coach pulled me aside to make sure I was ok and told me that i shouldn’t listen to my coach and that I should be proud of myself and the progress I have made. So the next day at practice I had a pretty scary fall and they ended up thinking I had a concussion so I had to go home early while I was waiting for my ride to pick me up I was approached by a different coach asking if I had ever considered switching coaches which yes I have but didn’t say that straight up. She kind of tried to hint at the idea but didn’t push too hard. Anyways turns out I didn’t have a concussion so when I went back to the gym the next day I was approached by our head coach and she also hinted at me switching coaches.
My parents want me to switch coaches and the other coaches want me to switch coaches my one friend in my group has already switched coaches and is trying to push me to switch coaches I want to switch coaches but then I don’t. My coach has known me since I was 3 and we share a special bond. In some ways I feel like I’m betraying her if I switch. But also this other coach is so kind and sweet but maybe that’s just because I have only been with her 2months. But this is not the first time I have had issues with my old coach. I thought I had made up my mind and told myself I would switch groups but then my coach texted me today asking how I was feel after my fall and it made me feel like I couldn’t leave her. Is there any point in switching coaches when I only have 1year left? I just don’t know what to do. Any advice?
I’ve been with this new coach for a few months now and she is absolutely amazing. She is so sweet and seems to truly care about alll her athletes. Before my coach went off on surgery she had given me what she would like to see in my level 9 routines. She had me working backhand backhands on beam for my connection but I really struggle with just a singular backhand spring as I was never taught proper basics for them so a backhand backhand is almost impossible for me to do. I asked my coach if I could do a connection with side Ariel in it but she refused. Anyways this new coach saw the BHBH was clearly not realistic and was much more understanding so she has started to let me work side Ariel round off as a connection. I was feeling a lot more confident and proud of myself as beam of as finally coming along.
Well my real coach came into watch and this new coach was scared she would get mad if I was works side Ariel round off so she told me to work BHBH that day. While my coach saw them on a low beam and was not happy at all she went on a rant about how they should be on a higher beam and that I wasn’t trying hard enough. She was super passive aggressive and asking me questions about what else I was working on cause I clearly hadn’t been working on BHBh hands. I explained to her that we were trying to fix the basics on my BHS but I was hesitant to tell her that I had also been working Ariel RO because I new she would get mad at the other coach. Anyway I ended up telling her that I was working a different connection and she was livid. Which I don’t understand why cause this connection will give me bonus. I ended up almost in tears about this and was so nervous the rest of practice that I would make her more mad. I had forgotten how anxious she can make me feel and honestly the entire day my gymnastics was off. Well at the end of the day this new coach pulled me aside to make sure I was ok and told me that i shouldn’t listen to my coach and that I should be proud of myself and the progress I have made. So the next day at practice I had a pretty scary fall and they ended up thinking I had a concussion so I had to go home early while I was waiting for my ride to pick me up I was approached by a different coach asking if I had ever considered switching coaches which yes I have but didn’t say that straight up. She kind of tried to hint at the idea but didn’t push too hard. Anyways turns out I didn’t have a concussion so when I went back to the gym the next day I was approached by our head coach and she also hinted at me switching coaches.
My parents want me to switch coaches and the other coaches want me to switch coaches my one friend in my group has already switched coaches and is trying to push me to switch coaches I want to switch coaches but then I don’t. My coach has known me since I was 3 and we share a special bond. In some ways I feel like I’m betraying her if I switch. But also this other coach is so kind and sweet but maybe that’s just because I have only been with her 2months. But this is not the first time I have had issues with my old coach. I thought I had made up my mind and told myself I would switch groups but then my coach texted me today asking how I was feel after my fall and it made me feel like I couldn’t leave her. Is there any point in switching coaches when I only have 1year left? I just don’t know what to do. Any advice?
