StayTru2U
Proud Parent
Hi All,
I am new to the site and seeking advice. I just got out of a Level 4 team meeting with parents and coaches (and gym owners) regarding our DDs. Almost the entire team of 12 girls (ranging in age from 8 to 13 years, with most being on the younger side of the range) are struggling this year. Their coach is concerned the majority of the girls will not reach the mobility score to advance next year. The reasons cited by the coaches/gym owners for our DDs poor performance were: (1) the girls are not working hard/they are not trying, (2) the girls lack motivation, (3) the girls lack focus, (4) the girls lack a good work ethic, (5) the girls are not watching each other during practice, (6) the girls are talking during practice, (7) the girls may not have “natural” talent, so they need to work harder, and (8) the girls are not supporting or encouraging one another. Our DDs have one coach, and their coach said our DDs are so lazy and unmotivated no other coach in the gym wants to work with them. Their coach said she is completely frustrated with them. When asked what she is currently doing to try to motivate the girls, their coach responded she has tried everything; some examples she gave were “punishing” the girls when they miss a skill by requiring them to do conditioning (e.g., rope climbs), cutting them off when practicing their routine(s) if they miss a skill or perform a skill incorrectly (e.g., without proper form), yelling at them if they are unfocused (the coach said particularly in situations if they are unfocused and do not do a skill correctly they could get hurt), and, in general, being tough [verbally] on them to try to get them to make corrections and improve. The girls’ former Level 3 coach also participated in the meeting and said the girls, “were the same way last year”.
When asked by one parent what the coach/gym owners plan to do, their response was that us parents need to “encourage” our kids more and communicate with the girls they need to work harder.
When several of the parents assured them we certainly are already doing so, and inquired what else can we do to help…there really was no answer.
My DD loves the sport. From listening to the other parents, it sounds like their daughters also still like participating in the sport. From my perspective, they really are a nice group of young ladies.
Please also note I am in no hurry for my daughter to advance next year. My DD is also fine with her progress and is OK with the idea of needing to repeat the level (she is on the younger side and is aware she is a little behind).
How do I react to this news? What can a parent do to help in this situation?
I am new to the site and seeking advice. I just got out of a Level 4 team meeting with parents and coaches (and gym owners) regarding our DDs. Almost the entire team of 12 girls (ranging in age from 8 to 13 years, with most being on the younger side of the range) are struggling this year. Their coach is concerned the majority of the girls will not reach the mobility score to advance next year. The reasons cited by the coaches/gym owners for our DDs poor performance were: (1) the girls are not working hard/they are not trying, (2) the girls lack motivation, (3) the girls lack focus, (4) the girls lack a good work ethic, (5) the girls are not watching each other during practice, (6) the girls are talking during practice, (7) the girls may not have “natural” talent, so they need to work harder, and (8) the girls are not supporting or encouraging one another. Our DDs have one coach, and their coach said our DDs are so lazy and unmotivated no other coach in the gym wants to work with them. Their coach said she is completely frustrated with them. When asked what she is currently doing to try to motivate the girls, their coach responded she has tried everything; some examples she gave were “punishing” the girls when they miss a skill by requiring them to do conditioning (e.g., rope climbs), cutting them off when practicing their routine(s) if they miss a skill or perform a skill incorrectly (e.g., without proper form), yelling at them if they are unfocused (the coach said particularly in situations if they are unfocused and do not do a skill correctly they could get hurt), and, in general, being tough [verbally] on them to try to get them to make corrections and improve. The girls’ former Level 3 coach also participated in the meeting and said the girls, “were the same way last year”.
When asked by one parent what the coach/gym owners plan to do, their response was that us parents need to “encourage” our kids more and communicate with the girls they need to work harder.
When several of the parents assured them we certainly are already doing so, and inquired what else can we do to help…there really was no answer.
My DD loves the sport. From listening to the other parents, it sounds like their daughters also still like participating in the sport. From my perspective, they really are a nice group of young ladies.
Please also note I am in no hurry for my daughter to advance next year. My DD is also fine with her progress and is OK with the idea of needing to repeat the level (she is on the younger side and is aware she is a little behind).
How do I react to this news? What can a parent do to help in this situation?