Texasmomof3
Proud Parent
My two youngest are/were both gymnasts and until last year, they trained at the same gym. Ds did T&T and dd did women's JO.
Due to issues on the JO team, we ended up moving dd to another gym. We tried to talk to the gym owner first, to address our issues and smooth things over, but it was a nightmare. The gym owner was pretty horrible when we moved dd, but agreed ds could stay. (They were hemorrhaging gymnasts and I think they couldn't afford to lose both kids.)
But now that the team has stabilized and regrouped, it has become very clear that ds was no longer welcome on his T&T team. The T&T coach stopped all communication with us. He cancelled two meets that were scheduled just to mobilize ds (and that we had paid for) without explanation. He moved ds down to a lower level training group and completely stopped up-training him on anything. We had zero problems with the T&T coach before we moved dd. It also isn't an issue of ds simply being no good. In fact, ds loved the sport and did well, winning first on two events at both state and regionals, and placing top three on two events at nationals this past season.
There is no other T&T team anywhere within a reasonable drive for him to move to. So two weeks ago, ds quit T&T. He is 15 and has been in some form of gymnastics since second grade. If we hadn't moved his sister, he would still be welcome on his team. So, of course, he resents his sister and us for ruining his gym experience.
I'm not sure how to help him through the loss of gymnastics. No one from the team has even spoken to him since he left. His coach didn't say a word to him nor have any of his teammates. (This is what we expected, as dd's teammates were told by the JO coach that they couldn't continue to be her friends once she left the gym.) But it still sucks for him. And I'm completely at a loss, except for my blind desire to inflict pain on everyone related to or involved in the old gym.
Due to issues on the JO team, we ended up moving dd to another gym. We tried to talk to the gym owner first, to address our issues and smooth things over, but it was a nightmare. The gym owner was pretty horrible when we moved dd, but agreed ds could stay. (They were hemorrhaging gymnasts and I think they couldn't afford to lose both kids.)
But now that the team has stabilized and regrouped, it has become very clear that ds was no longer welcome on his T&T team. The T&T coach stopped all communication with us. He cancelled two meets that were scheduled just to mobilize ds (and that we had paid for) without explanation. He moved ds down to a lower level training group and completely stopped up-training him on anything. We had zero problems with the T&T coach before we moved dd. It also isn't an issue of ds simply being no good. In fact, ds loved the sport and did well, winning first on two events at both state and regionals, and placing top three on two events at nationals this past season.
There is no other T&T team anywhere within a reasonable drive for him to move to. So two weeks ago, ds quit T&T. He is 15 and has been in some form of gymnastics since second grade. If we hadn't moved his sister, he would still be welcome on his team. So, of course, he resents his sister and us for ruining his gym experience.
I'm not sure how to help him through the loss of gymnastics. No one from the team has even spoken to him since he left. His coach didn't say a word to him nor have any of his teammates. (This is what we expected, as dd's teammates were told by the JO coach that they couldn't continue to be her friends once she left the gym.) But it still sucks for him. And I'm completely at a loss, except for my blind desire to inflict pain on everyone related to or involved in the old gym.