Becauseisaid
Proud Parent
Really. I don't. She's a lovely child. Almost 10 years old. Very bright. Destined to make me lose my hair and gain wrinkles or an ulcer.
She's had a fear / mental block about jumping to the high bar for about 8 months. Came out of nowhere. One day she was squatting on and standing on the bar with no fear (or wobbles) and the next, she froze when asked to jump to the high bar.
Fast forward to this summer. DD knows she has to jump to the high bar if she wants to be L4 next year. And she REALLY wants to be L4. So I have her write down every little step for making the jump, a plan to do it (huge squishy mat under bar to start with, eyes on high bar only, count to 3, go), and consequences if she doesn't go. Seemed to work. By the end of 1 private, she was making the jump with no problem. Continued to make the jump at that gym for the next month but at this gym only. (Gym has 2 locations and the girls practice at both.) Put her at the other location and the fear would rear it's ugly head again.
1 month later and she gets over her fear of jumping at the 2nd location only to have the fear crop up the VERY NEXT DAY at the 1st location. Again!
I get that she probably is learning to work through her fear rather than the fear just going away. But it kills me that she works through it and seems (I know) to be getting more comfortable just to be blindsided again. I can't help her. Makes me crazy. I think I need to start drinking when I decide to watch a practice.
She's had a fear / mental block about jumping to the high bar for about 8 months. Came out of nowhere. One day she was squatting on and standing on the bar with no fear (or wobbles) and the next, she froze when asked to jump to the high bar.
Fast forward to this summer. DD knows she has to jump to the high bar if she wants to be L4 next year. And she REALLY wants to be L4. So I have her write down every little step for making the jump, a plan to do it (huge squishy mat under bar to start with, eyes on high bar only, count to 3, go), and consequences if she doesn't go. Seemed to work. By the end of 1 private, she was making the jump with no problem. Continued to make the jump at that gym for the next month but at this gym only. (Gym has 2 locations and the girls practice at both.) Put her at the other location and the fear would rear it's ugly head again.
1 month later and she gets over her fear of jumping at the 2nd location only to have the fear crop up the VERY NEXT DAY at the 1st location. Again!
I get that she probably is learning to work through her fear rather than the fear just going away. But it kills me that she works through it and seems (I know) to be getting more comfortable just to be blindsided again. I can't help her. Makes me crazy. I think I need to start drinking when I decide to watch a practice.