BPD304
Proud Parent
So, I was that really bad mom at the gym and ride home last night. For history we changed gyms 4-5 months ago and after the first intro week I stopped watching practice and let ODD (just turned 10 level 4) do her thing. I might catch the last 10-15 min of practice but even that is rare. Since the mock meet I could tell my DD was just "off". The mock meet did not go well and she had one of the lowest scores. Since then an "old injury " suddenly came up and I have found her complaining of pain in her arch and she is wrapping her foot. She can't do vault or parts of floor. I was ok with it 2-3 weeks ago and she had told me this week she had been practicing all events and things were good. Yesterday I ended up being at the gym the first hour of her practice ( youngest DD L3) for a team parent meeting with L3 coach. As I watched ODD on beam not one cartwheel was hit ( she had been getting 8-9 out of 10). We left and went to dinner and ended up coming back to the gym the last 45 min of practice. The mom I was with was like let's go watch.... I knew better. I watched ODD goof off and be silly and not acting appropriate in the bar line. Couldn't do her bar routine ( no kips, bad casting, legs everywhere) Then they moved to vault and she would not vault, but stayed on tumble track doing flips/tucks and jumping. When she came out for a drink I told her to practice her vault and stop playing. Cue crying voice with "my foot hurts" at which point I told her if she can jump around and act silly and play she could vault. She can no longer vault anywhere close to a L4 vault. Legs so bent she could sit in a chair.
On the way home I told her I was ready to pull her from her first meet next week. That if she was going to refuse to practice and not do her best then I was not going to reward her for poor behavior. I went on to say that if she was not going to behave at practice they could still move her back to L3 and she could relearn all her skills. That if she just wanted to play I could also pull her from team and just let her take a rec class.
Lot's of tears and talking late last night she finally says that she is the 2nd oldest but is worst on the team and she hates that 8/9 yr olds are better. I found videos and showed her how the entire summer she had a great L4 vault (for her) and how she had started up training the L6 vault. Also, cartwheels and bwo on beam...She said she forgot she could do all these things. We talked about her goals and how being goofy and silly at practice is not how you achieve them. I told her I would let her do her first meet but she needed to really focus and work at practice. Most of all she needs to believe in herself.
I know I shouldn't have said anything and I feel horrible for being the mean mom and threatening to take away meets. I don't care what she scores at a meet as long as she does her best and gives 100%.
Sorry for the overly long post but I had no place else to vent....
On the way home I told her I was ready to pull her from her first meet next week. That if she was going to refuse to practice and not do her best then I was not going to reward her for poor behavior. I went on to say that if she was not going to behave at practice they could still move her back to L3 and she could relearn all her skills. That if she just wanted to play I could also pull her from team and just let her take a rec class.
Lot's of tears and talking late last night she finally says that she is the 2nd oldest but is worst on the team and she hates that 8/9 yr olds are better. I found videos and showed her how the entire summer she had a great L4 vault (for her) and how she had started up training the L6 vault. Also, cartwheels and bwo on beam...She said she forgot she could do all these things. We talked about her goals and how being goofy and silly at practice is not how you achieve them. I told her I would let her do her first meet but she needed to really focus and work at practice. Most of all she needs to believe in herself.
I know I shouldn't have said anything and I feel horrible for being the mean mom and threatening to take away meets. I don't care what she scores at a meet as long as she does her best and gives 100%.
Sorry for the overly long post but I had no place else to vent....