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So now that her L6 season is over, dd is working on her Prep-Op routines (which she is LOVING) and training 'up'.
She had been saying she wants to repeat L6 next year, b/c she could be w/ all her (currently) L5 friends when they move up. It's all up in the air now, of course, since we don't know if we'll be here or not, and we don't know what her new gym will want her to do if we move. So, she is training up like the rest of the L6's right now.
There is a new coach at the gym who (according to dd) has taken an interest in getting her bars in shape. He thinks she is able to cast to handstand and really wants to help her make it happen.
The problem w/ my very stubborn dd is that whenever she is working on that next 'tough' skill, she resists it and fights it all the way. She has determined in her head that "I just can't do bars, I'm not strong enough". And she can be stuck there for months, let me tell you, from past experience. She did this w/ her flyaway. Resisted it for months and months, and then learned it in one day, when a new coach came along and showed her a new way to do it (plus he was real laid back & calm about it).
I can see already that she is going to give this coach a run for his money! He is going to push and prod b/c he really wants her to get it. And she will push and prod right back. Why? I don't really know why! I think she enjoys a good fight! And she has a chance to exercise her strong will, which she is not able to do at home, since Mom rules w/ the iron fist!
Any advice? When she comes home relaying her gym stuff, I just say "Oh, mm-hmmm, I see...must be tough...", etc., But I just want to shake her and say "Maybe you should just listen to him and get the dang skill!!". She's going on & on w/ the "I can't" mantra, and I think she is going to drive him nuts.
I am not worried about if she gets the skill or not, but I do wish she would change her tune to a more positive mindset! But if I suggest it to her I might as well be talking to an iceberg b/c she is not going to listen to me anyway! GRRRR!
She had been saying she wants to repeat L6 next year, b/c she could be w/ all her (currently) L5 friends when they move up. It's all up in the air now, of course, since we don't know if we'll be here or not, and we don't know what her new gym will want her to do if we move. So, she is training up like the rest of the L6's right now.
There is a new coach at the gym who (according to dd) has taken an interest in getting her bars in shape. He thinks she is able to cast to handstand and really wants to help her make it happen.
The problem w/ my very stubborn dd is that whenever she is working on that next 'tough' skill, she resists it and fights it all the way. She has determined in her head that "I just can't do bars, I'm not strong enough". And she can be stuck there for months, let me tell you, from past experience. She did this w/ her flyaway. Resisted it for months and months, and then learned it in one day, when a new coach came along and showed her a new way to do it (plus he was real laid back & calm about it).
I can see already that she is going to give this coach a run for his money! He is going to push and prod b/c he really wants her to get it. And she will push and prod right back. Why? I don't really know why! I think she enjoys a good fight! And she has a chance to exercise her strong will, which she is not able to do at home, since Mom rules w/ the iron fist!
Any advice? When she comes home relaying her gym stuff, I just say "Oh, mm-hmmm, I see...must be tough...", etc., But I just want to shake her and say "Maybe you should just listen to him and get the dang skill!!". She's going on & on w/ the "I can't" mantra, and I think she is going to drive him nuts.
I am not worried about if she gets the skill or not, but I do wish she would change her tune to a more positive mindset! But if I suggest it to her I might as well be talking to an iceberg b/c she is not going to listen to me anyway! GRRRR!