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cathiann
Beth is putting way too much pressure on herself. How can I help her?? She's 11 yrs old--competed level 7 last year and did great. This year her coaches want her to do the intrasquad as a level 8 and get a move up score to level 9 (they're sanctioning the meet, so they can do that--another teammate is doing the same thing). Then compete the rest of the season as a level 9.
Beth was in tears last night worried that she wouldn't get the score she needs. I tried to talk to her about that she would just compete as a level 8 for the next meet, but she said she'd be even MORE worried about getting the score. Reminded her of last year where she didn't do well at the intrasquad (nerves--first meet as an optional)--but did awesome at her first meet (took 1st or 2nd on vault even). Reminded her that she HAS all her level 8 skills--the moves she's worried about are level 9 skills. Reminded her it's still 6 weeks until the intrasquad. Finally said if she was this stressed by it, maybe she should just plan to stay a level 8 this year. NO! Was her answer--she wants to be a 9--doesn't want to do level 8.
Tried talking about Allison Arnold--and visualizing rather than thinking negatively.
Help! What can I do?? She's always been a perfectionist. She'll be in tears at a practice because she's mad at herself for not doing something the way she thinks she should do it. I obviously can't change her basic personality--how can I help her and not let her mind drag her down??
Beth was in tears last night worried that she wouldn't get the score she needs. I tried to talk to her about that she would just compete as a level 8 for the next meet, but she said she'd be even MORE worried about getting the score. Reminded her of last year where she didn't do well at the intrasquad (nerves--first meet as an optional)--but did awesome at her first meet (took 1st or 2nd on vault even). Reminded her that she HAS all her level 8 skills--the moves she's worried about are level 9 skills. Reminded her it's still 6 weeks until the intrasquad. Finally said if she was this stressed by it, maybe she should just plan to stay a level 8 this year. NO! Was her answer--she wants to be a 9--doesn't want to do level 8.
Tried talking about Allison Arnold--and visualizing rather than thinking negatively.
Help! What can I do?? She's always been a perfectionist. She'll be in tears at a practice because she's mad at herself for not doing something the way she thinks she should do it. I obviously can't change her basic personality--how can I help her and not let her mind drag her down??