This is a question for parents and coaches:
Do you have any experience with gymnasts who excessively doubt themselves? And what do you do to help them?
I have a gymnast who is consumed by doubts if she might be better off quitting because she might not be good enough. I will talk to her mother today......unless she tells me that her daughter will quit, I need to find a way to get through to her. Here's some information on the situation:
There is no pressure on the girl to make a certain level or reach a certain goal (neither short- nor long-term). She deals with mental blocks on floor from time to time that are always brought on by comeptitions coming closer. Apparently she talks about gymnastics almost every day at home and is constantly worried about not being good enough. The mother is extremely worried about her daughter's well-being - all she ever says is "I just want my child to be happy". I sometimes feel that this puts another kind of pressure on the girl who IMO might feel like a failure for making her mom worried about her. Does that make sense? I'm not a parent so it's very difficult for me to talk to parents without getting the "You don't understand, you are not a parent" response. My instinct would be to explain to the mother to try and not let her daughter feel her own concerns so much. Also - I wonder if it's not counterproductive to always be so responsive when the daughter brings up her worries (which are always the same). Might it not be more helpful to say "We have discussed this many times before, the consensus has been that your coach believes in you and you are doing fine, there is nothing to worry about." Mind you - I'm not advocating to ignore the girl - however, I feel there is only so much that talking about the same thing over and over again, without gaining any new insight, can do.
I'd be really greatful for your thoughts and advice on that....Thanks!
Do you have any experience with gymnasts who excessively doubt themselves? And what do you do to help them?
I have a gymnast who is consumed by doubts if she might be better off quitting because she might not be good enough. I will talk to her mother today......unless she tells me that her daughter will quit, I need to find a way to get through to her. Here's some information on the situation:
There is no pressure on the girl to make a certain level or reach a certain goal (neither short- nor long-term). She deals with mental blocks on floor from time to time that are always brought on by comeptitions coming closer. Apparently she talks about gymnastics almost every day at home and is constantly worried about not being good enough. The mother is extremely worried about her daughter's well-being - all she ever says is "I just want my child to be happy". I sometimes feel that this puts another kind of pressure on the girl who IMO might feel like a failure for making her mom worried about her. Does that make sense? I'm not a parent so it's very difficult for me to talk to parents without getting the "You don't understand, you are not a parent" response. My instinct would be to explain to the mother to try and not let her daughter feel her own concerns so much. Also - I wonder if it's not counterproductive to always be so responsive when the daughter brings up her worries (which are always the same). Might it not be more helpful to say "We have discussed this many times before, the consensus has been that your coach believes in you and you are doing fine, there is nothing to worry about." Mind you - I'm not advocating to ignore the girl - however, I feel there is only so much that talking about the same thing over and over again, without gaining any new insight, can do.
I'd be really greatful for your thoughts and advice on that....Thanks!