My kid has been having a rough time at the gym for the past several months. I keep thinking she's pushed through it and gotten her confidence back, but then I am quickly proven wrong. She feels like she's the worst gymnast on the team and that her coach doesn't believe in her and is treating her unfairly. The coach is a rather stern person and has made her expectations clear in no uncertain terms, but I haven't heard any evidence that she is not being fair. In the summer we have a half-hour car ride after every practice, the entirety of which she spends lamenting how bad a gymnast she is, how her coach thinks she is no good, and how it's not fair that she didn't get to do such and such a thing. I have tried reasoning with her, challenging her to think for herself ("So what is the worst thing that could happen if you did the skill without a spot like coach wants you to?"), offering to provide Doc Ali materials (she is opposed), and just listening. Nothing seems to stem the tide of negativity. She insists that she loves gymnastics and wants to continue, but she says she wants a different coach. That is not possible at the current time, although she will never have this coach again if she ever manages to get herself out of L3. I also believe that if she can just work through whatever issues she's having with the sport and her coach, she will be a much stronger, more confident person in all areas of her life. She is used to being the best at everything, and it's been very hard for her to discover that gymnastics is not like that.
I finally told her I would no longer entertain any discussion of gymnastics, and she begged me not to ban the topic because venting makes her feel better. I can't take it any longer. It is turning me into a basket case CGM, constantly worrying about whether she got to be a line leader and whether she attempted her cartwheel on the high beam. I also don't really think it is helping my daughter much.
More experienced gym parents, how have you dealt with situations like this? Am I right in banning all gymnastics talk? Should I give her five minutes and then tell her to stop talking about gymnastics? Insist she do Doc Ali? Play loud music and ignore it? Allow her to continue venting and stock up on chocolate bars and pinot noir?
I finally told her I would no longer entertain any discussion of gymnastics, and she begged me not to ban the topic because venting makes her feel better. I can't take it any longer. It is turning me into a basket case CGM, constantly worrying about whether she got to be a line leader and whether she attempted her cartwheel on the high beam. I also don't really think it is helping my daughter much.
More experienced gym parents, how have you dealt with situations like this? Am I right in banning all gymnastics talk? Should I give her five minutes and then tell her to stop talking about gymnastics? Insist she do Doc Ali? Play loud music and ignore it? Allow her to continue venting and stock up on chocolate bars and pinot noir?