hello everyone, just need some opinions and advice on how anyone handles in inevitable drama with 11-14 year olds. I need some ideas for building team sportsmanship, and support of one another. Do you as a parent interfere? Let them work it out? or have a team parent get together to discuss issues that have been allowed to go on for years. I belive coach wants them to police themselves, however, it has not worked in 4 years. We get a lot of segregation of this group (they do train in 2 groups, as there are 11 of them) they pit one kid against another, "coach" each other ect, and have gone as far as belittling others at birthday parties. Lately we have had one kid want to take a team picture "only with the girls she particularly trains with in the picture" . Then this child wonders why "no one likes her" She also has told other teamates outright "I secretly wish you fall on your beam routine" did I mention this is a coaches kid?? I dont really want to stir the pot, if this is "just the way it is " It just makes me sad to have them look back on what will be the majority of their childhood, and have all these bad feelings, feelings of being bullied ect. We as parents have kinda talked to the coach (hes not too particularly warm and fuzzy, thinks parents are just a pain in the ....but a great coach non the less) I would love to hear from some upper level optionals, these girls are level 9, and wondering if you are going through the same thing?? HELP ! Maybe I'll just have a glass of wine.