I was reading posts last week that reminded me that this is Flippers sport and I need to keep my nose and comments out of it. While I have tried to do that in the past, I realized that I have been grilling her in the car on the way home from practice about how practice went - any new tricks or issues?!
This week I stepped back and made a concerted effort to just leave it alone. About the 4th day of my new attitude, she hopped into the car and asked why I wasn't asking about gym. I replied that I only wanted to talk about it if she did. She offered comments on her concerns about new skills and asked me to go out and watch her work on them on our trampoline. She asked me to go with her to a special training session next weekend (out of town) and generally started talking about what SHE wanted to talk about regarding gym. I am really trying to let her take the lead and I am really trying to quietly follow.
While I am sure that I will need you all to remind me again and again, I thank you for opening my eyes to the unintended pressure I've been putting on the Flipper.
This week I stepped back and made a concerted effort to just leave it alone. About the 4th day of my new attitude, she hopped into the car and asked why I wasn't asking about gym. I replied that I only wanted to talk about it if she did. She offered comments on her concerns about new skills and asked me to go out and watch her work on them on our trampoline. She asked me to go with her to a special training session next weekend (out of town) and generally started talking about what SHE wanted to talk about regarding gym. I am really trying to let her take the lead and I am really trying to quietly follow.
While I am sure that I will need you all to remind me again and again, I thank you for opening my eyes to the unintended pressure I've been putting on the Flipper.