Flossyduck
Proud Parent
My dd normally gets changed herself after gym and gets dressed in the mornings in her room, but one day last week I took her a clean shirt while she was dressing and I noticed red marks around the back of her neck and on her back and when I looked closer they looked like nail marks. She refused to talk about them and insisted she had no idea what they were and no she hadn't been fighting with her brother or with anyone at school.
This morning I decided to tackle her again and just calmly told her I didn't believe she didn't know how she got them (they were pretty obvious) and I promised not to be cross but she needed to be honest with me. With huge reluctance she said her coach had dug her nails in when she was supporting her clear hips on metal bar and she thought she'd "got a bit frustrated".
Dd was so unhappy about telling me, got very anxious. I asked if she got frustrated like that often and she said no, only sometimes and then she said she thought it was accidental anyway and she'd had to grab her when she fell and that was probably when it happened. I said "you know that a coach shouldn't hurt you even if she's frustrated don't you, and that 's why you didn't want to tell me" and she nodded.
Now I'm confused, messed up and desperate to know... could this have been an accident? Is it possible to cause nail marks like that, still visible the next day, by just grabbing a girl to stop her falling? There looked to be quite a few... could the coach have not known she was digging her nails in? Has anyone else had this?
I want to believe this was a one off accident, but dd's reluctance to tell me makes me suspect she thinks differently or she'd have just come out with it. I don't know what to do and I want to cry!
This morning I decided to tackle her again and just calmly told her I didn't believe she didn't know how she got them (they were pretty obvious) and I promised not to be cross but she needed to be honest with me. With huge reluctance she said her coach had dug her nails in when she was supporting her clear hips on metal bar and she thought she'd "got a bit frustrated".
Dd was so unhappy about telling me, got very anxious. I asked if she got frustrated like that often and she said no, only sometimes and then she said she thought it was accidental anyway and she'd had to grab her when she fell and that was probably when it happened. I said "you know that a coach shouldn't hurt you even if she's frustrated don't you, and that 's why you didn't want to tell me" and she nodded.
Now I'm confused, messed up and desperate to know... could this have been an accident? Is it possible to cause nail marks like that, still visible the next day, by just grabbing a girl to stop her falling? There looked to be quite a few... could the coach have not known she was digging her nails in? Has anyone else had this?
I want to believe this was a one off accident, but dd's reluctance to tell me makes me suspect she thinks differently or she'd have just come out with it. I don't know what to do and I want to cry!