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We've all discussed the crazy gym parents who make ugly comments and how to deal with them, but what if they are one of your friends and they are talking about your child?
I have a friend at DD's gym who reacted rather ugly at the meet. To give some history our DD's were at the same gym to start. They left to go to the current gym when their DD was not moved to L4 at the old gym and my DD was. At that time she said some ugly things to me like, "Your DD isn't better than mine so it doesn't make sense. It's not fair, they are just playing favorites. Your DD is getting an unfair advantage." etc. I understood why they were upset because I honestly don't know why they picked my DD over hers and encouraged them to find a gym that would let her do L4. I maintained the friendship and now we followed them to our current gym where they have been nothing but nice and welcoming.
So at the meet on Saturday her DD didn't score as well. They aren't even in the same age division, but I guess it bothered this mom. First on floor when DD scored about 1 point better she was kind of like that doesn't make sense. Your DD is getting cute points. On vault my DD went first and scored a 9.0. She commented that this was her DD's one chance to get over a 9.0. Well she only scored an 8.7. The mom actually started crying. Seriously. She asked me how it was possible that my DD outscored her on vault. I knew the answer, but thought it wouldn't be taken well. Her DD has a big vault, but she pikes. On to bars where DD fell and still scored .8 more. The mom was really upset at that point and said she was done. The scoring wasn't fair etc. I just told her I wasn't sure, but she should ask the coach what her DD's deductions were.
I know there's nothing I can do about this. She really is a nice person, she just doesn't understand gymnastics scoring. Do I ignore her and just avoid sitting by her at a meet again even though I generally really like her? Or do I give her a lesson in gymnastics socring? Would it be taken rudely for me to tell her, "By the way I can tell you why she's only scoring an 8 on bars without a fall. Her legs are bent and apart in every skill, she doesn't cast after her FHC, she doesn't show support after her shoot through or before and after her mill circle, she hooks her leg, her back hip circle is piked and she has no real dismount." I'm thinking it's probably better to just keep my mouth shut. What do you think?
I have a friend at DD's gym who reacted rather ugly at the meet. To give some history our DD's were at the same gym to start. They left to go to the current gym when their DD was not moved to L4 at the old gym and my DD was. At that time she said some ugly things to me like, "Your DD isn't better than mine so it doesn't make sense. It's not fair, they are just playing favorites. Your DD is getting an unfair advantage." etc. I understood why they were upset because I honestly don't know why they picked my DD over hers and encouraged them to find a gym that would let her do L4. I maintained the friendship and now we followed them to our current gym where they have been nothing but nice and welcoming.
So at the meet on Saturday her DD didn't score as well. They aren't even in the same age division, but I guess it bothered this mom. First on floor when DD scored about 1 point better she was kind of like that doesn't make sense. Your DD is getting cute points. On vault my DD went first and scored a 9.0. She commented that this was her DD's one chance to get over a 9.0. Well she only scored an 8.7. The mom actually started crying. Seriously. She asked me how it was possible that my DD outscored her on vault. I knew the answer, but thought it wouldn't be taken well. Her DD has a big vault, but she pikes. On to bars where DD fell and still scored .8 more. The mom was really upset at that point and said she was done. The scoring wasn't fair etc. I just told her I wasn't sure, but she should ask the coach what her DD's deductions were.
I know there's nothing I can do about this. She really is a nice person, she just doesn't understand gymnastics scoring. Do I ignore her and just avoid sitting by her at a meet again even though I generally really like her? Or do I give her a lesson in gymnastics socring? Would it be taken rudely for me to tell her, "By the way I can tell you why she's only scoring an 8 on bars without a fall. Her legs are bent and apart in every skill, she doesn't cast after her FHC, she doesn't show support after her shoot through or before and after her mill circle, she hooks her leg, her back hip circle is piked and she has no real dismount." I'm thinking it's probably better to just keep my mouth shut. What do you think?